SciEdMan is offline SciEdMan Post #1  September 23,2009, 1:25pm
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At what point do you look in the mirror and finally just admit to yourself that maybe you're just not going to find love? The rejections just keep coming, and everyone my age seems to be getting married left and right, and if they're not married they're engaged or taken. Two of the three girls I've been interested in turned out to be taken, and the third one stated bluntly that she does "not want to date [me], never wanted to date [me], and never will want to date [me]". At what point do you just accept that you're going to be a lonely hermit for the rest of your life? *sigh*

I've finally gotten to the point that I've decided that I'm a victim of natural selection. That nature has selected my specific group of genes to not be passed on. That it would be better for the species as a whole if I do not pass on my genes. That's the only explanation that I can find.

And I know it may be early in my life to begin thinking this way, but God, it's just so hard... and I'm so lonely... and I have days where I don't even want to get out of bed, times that I just want to set down and cry... is it so much to ask to find one person in life that actually appreciates who you are as a person and loves you for being that person? Why is that so hard?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  September 23,2009, 1:29pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Dude....you're feeling down and lonely right now. But you're only 21 years old (according to your profile).....you have many, many, many years ahead of you to find someone. Also, no matter who you are I can just about guarantee that there are some women who are interested in you. The only question is if you're open to dating them.
 
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SciEdMan is offline SciEdMan Post #3  September 23,2009, 1:33pm
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jayjay wrote :
]Also, no matter who you are I can just about guarantee that there are some women who are interested in you. The only question is if you're open to dating them.
Then where do you meet these women? They don't seem to exist, anywhere. Maybe they're stuck on their computers asking for advice on a forum too, who knows, but apparently they're nowhere around me.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  September 23,2009, 1:37pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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SciEdMan wrote :
Then where do you meet these women? They don't seem to exist, anywhere. Maybe they're stuck on their computers asking for advice on a forum too, who knows, but apparently they're nowhere around me.
Or likely, some of them are just women that you don't ordinarily notice. Have you ever noticed if you pay more attention to some women while you hardly notice others? Some of these may very well be interested in you.
 
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One thing that I am sure you will find, is that as a man, time is on your side. Not that that is a quick solution, though.
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Well i am sorry you are feeling a bit "",but hey!You are tooo young to give up so soon.I am 37 and single, never married, my exes were not that nice and honest with me, but i sure have hope to find my soulmate!!!You have two options:either keep your hope and keep doing something to find love or you will "die inside".
Yesterday i read a post of a girl here saying that she got 3000...something matches on EH,and finnaly she is going to somewhere with a special man!
And you better get used to get a few denials until you find a girl that notices what is special about you,and also that is worth of you (you better love yourself first).That is all part of life and of the dating.I don't get depressed anymore when someone rejects me: i just accept we were not meant to be and move on!
Also just one more thing:don't focus so much in finding a woman, but more on making friends.On my long search, i made a few wonderful friends that helped me when my exes broke up with me and i needed to heal.So keep your friends!
So there is always good things to take from the "bad" that happens"!!Sheer up my friend, you are going to be fine!God bless you!
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Well at 21 you could just give up and 35 years later you could be just like me.

Though this time I am not going to give up.
 
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You've met the wrong women and have adopted the wrong attitude. Be more selective, go to different places, talk to women you want to talk to, not just those you think will only talk to you. A conversation doesn't necessarily lead to a marriage proposal. Strike one up in the bookstore line or a poetry reading or the laundromat. Stay away from girls who say "always" and "never."

It's about you, buddy. Be kind, considerate, humorous, gentle, compassionate, caring, generous, open-minded, truthful, and giving. Don't act needy or desperate. Be confident but not arrogant. Be patient. Be patient. Be patient. Each thing you do, each move you make, each word you utter, leads somewhere, so make it all matter.
 
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SciEdMan wrote :
At what point do you look in the mirror and finally just admit to yourself that maybe you're just not going to find love? The rejections just keep coming, and everyone my age seems to be getting married left and right, and if they're not married they're engaged or taken. Two of the three girls I've been interested in turned out to be taken, and the third one stated bluntly that she does "not want to date [me], never wanted to date [me], and never will want to date [me]". At what point do you just accept that you're going to be a lonely hermit for the rest of your life? *sigh*

I've finally gotten to the point that I've decided that I'm a victim of natural selection. That nature has selected my specific group of genes to not be passed on. That it would be better for the species as a whole if I do not pass on my genes. That's the only explanation that I can find.

And I know it may be early in my life to begin thinking this way, but God, it's just so hard... and I'm so lonely... and I have days where I don't even want to get out of bed, times that I just want to set down and cry... is it so much to ask to find one person in life that actually appreciates who you are as a person and loves you for being that person? Why is that so hard?
Clearly you have a problem with finding girls who are actually interested in you. 7 out of 10 girls aren't going to be interested in you. Of the 3 left, 2 will be taken. That leaves that 1 girl who will be interested. And you'll need to meet a huge number of the interested girls before you meet the one.

So get crackin.
 
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