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My experience has been pretty good when just walking up to a woman and asking her if she is either married, or in a committed relationship.

The first few times are a little awkward, but, if you get yourself in the habit of doing this, it really opens up possibilities. Most of the time you have an opportunity to watch them a little and see how they are acting in whatever they are doing.

You can tell pretty soon if they may have a partner or not. People watching can be entertaining and informative. I have not had any woman get pissed off, or anything bad so far.
- September 24th, 2009, 06:20 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
pick up artists do it all the time.
I sense an undercurrent of hostility in your tone.
- September 24th, 2009, 06:28 pm
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SciEdMan wrote :
I sense an undercurrent of hostility in your tone.
nope, not at all.

my point is that yes, pickup artists do it all the time- in your case, the goal is different, but the technique is the same.

ETA: the reason i'm so interested in this topic is that it's something that can be learned. I'm in commisioned sales, so i talk to strangers and get them to spend money all the time- approaching someone with a romantic interest is basically the same thing.
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I was going to go with spontaneous nudity. Maybe a reason why we're single Saul, though I'll be damned if I can put my finger on it.
Oh, wow, hey, is my FLY undone!

Speaking of, wanna see a baby elephant?

(Saul pulls the pockets of his blue jeans inside-out).

See! Those are the elephant ears, and... here's the trunk!


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- September 24th, 2009, 06:52 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
pick up artists do it all the time.
Pick-up artists know first how to choose their target. I've never been a good pick-up artist just for that fact.

My buddy in college, he'd get one or two women every weekend. He was tall, had the gift of gab, friendly, genuinely harmless -- he was just having fun, not trying to victimize anyone.

But he also had no standards. He went for anyone who'd talk back with him. The pick-up artists just know which women in the group to hit on. He usually hit the one who looked the lonliest and most desperate, and most of the time, she wasn't the prettiest, either.

Me, I have standards, and I never was good at just going after tail for the sake of tail.

So that means I want ~that~ girl, not ~this~ girl. And ~that~ girl isn't always easy to get.


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- September 24th, 2009, 06:59 pm
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saulgoode wrote :
Pick-up artists know first how to choose their target. I've never been a good pick-up artist just for that fact.

My buddy in college, he'd get one or two women every weekend. He was tall, had the gift of gab, friendly, genuinely harmless -- he was just having fun, not trying to victimize anyone.

But he also had no standards. He went for anyone who'd talk back with him. The pick-up artists just know which women in the group to hit on. He usually hit the one who looked the lonliest and most desperate, and most of the time, she wasn't the prettiest, either.

Me, I have standards, and I never was good at just going after tail for the sake of tail.

So that means I want ~that~ girl, not ~this~ girl. And ~that~ girl isn't always easy to get.


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i have to disagree. your friend wasn't a good pick up artist, he was just a fun person.

in my job, i don't have the luxury of picking my target- i have to adjust my approach to the target.
- September 24th, 2009, 07:04 pm
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i have to disagree. your friend wasn't a good pick up artist, he was just a fun person.

in my job, i don't have the luxury of picking my target- i have to adjust my approach to the target.
I guess my definition of a pick-up artist and yours differ.

I call a pick-up artist someone who goes out, finds girls, acts like himself and has fun. He's not fake -- he's himself, and he finds women who are genuinely interested in him, even if they're not the top of his game.

Someone who can adjust themselves to pick up any woman, in any situation, by modifying their image and their approach to meet the girl's expectations, I call those guys con-artists. This has nothing to do with picking up women -- you're fooling women, tricking them, presenting them with a guy who does not exist. You're not "picking them up" at all. You're fooling them into falling for a facade; who knows if they really want you or not, they just want that facade.

There's a difference.

Ted Bundy, he was the latter, so are nearly all the sociopaths out there. Scary guys, these. They are good at fooling people.

Perhaps I over-generalize. I sure hope so.


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saulgoode wrote :
Oh, wow, hey, is my FLY undone!

Speaking of, wanna see a baby elephant?

(Saul pulls the pockets of his blue jeans inside-out).

See! Those are the elephant ears, and... here's the trunk!


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That sure would break the ice honey. Pretty difficult to remain detached under those circumstances. Detached or calm for that matter, I suppose.
- September 25th, 2009, 01:54 pm
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Just be yourself. That is more honest and natural which can be quite refreshing to hear instead of tired old lines. You can start with noticing something about her that stands out to you and make a comment about it to break the ice. Getting her to talk about herself is a good way to get a conversation going. Then, ask her name, tell her your name, ask her if she has had lunch yet, if her answer is no, then ask her to join you for lunch. If she has had lunch already, then ask her out for another day.
- September 30th, 2009, 06:24 pm
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Other than Hello, what's your name, this topic is something with which to even I need help. But I think for me, an important question is, when to approach her. And what if someone doesn't go to coffee shops? I don't often.
- October 1st, 2009, 09:09 pm
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