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I met this guy a couple of weeks ago, seemed very nice and was very respectable, but one day he asked me why I was single, I didn't know him that well to share my whole life story, so I told him I hadn't met the right person yet. But he told are you single because your easy and nobody takes you serious? I just couldn't beleive that someone would have the nerve to tell me anything like. Then he wanted to know why at my age I have no kids. He started to say most latinas my age have two or three kids. So how would anybody answer this question? Or what the best way to answer this question? Why are you single?
- September 23rd, 2009, 10:56 am
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Why respond to him at all? Have not contact.
- September 23rd, 2009, 10:59 am
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Now you know why he's single. ; )
- September 23rd, 2009, 10:59 am
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While the average to get married is 27 (saw it on TV news) it is not uncommon at your age of 33 to not be married. I would not consider these questions to be out of bounds even in OC. Though the way that you have presented the questions does seem a bit rude.

You gave a good answer for why you nave never been married. A good answer for why you have never had children would be that you believe that people should be in a stable marriage before having children.

I am much older than you and never married and all my matches ask why I have never been married.
- September 23rd, 2009, 12:13 pm
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Superstar. Other than the canned reponse you gave him. You are the only person who really knows what the best answer is to this question. Everyone's path to where they are now life life is different. You don't have to share your whole life story,but just a glimpse. Anything you say will be truthful response but different than the canned repsonses we always here.
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You definitely gave him the right answer and that's what I say myself when confronted with those kinds of questions. He sounds like he has some major attitude/insecurity/stereotyping issues. If I had been in your shoes and he continued like that, I would have laughed and told him "it's great that he is such a strong believer in stereotypes" and then changed the conversation. Of course it would also be the very last time he sees me.
- September 23rd, 2009, 01:38 pm
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superstar75 wrote :
I met this guy a couple of weeks ago, seemed very nice and was very respectable, but one day he asked me why I was single, I didn't know him that well to share my whole life story, so I told him I hadn't met the right person yet. But he told are you single because your easy and nobody takes you serious? I just couldn't beleive that someone would have the nerve to tell me anything like. Then he wanted to know why at my age I have no kids. He started to say most latinas my age have two or three kids. So how would anybody answer this question? Or what the best way to answer this question?
Tell him: " I never got the hang of it."

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Why are you single?
Because I'm not with someone.

When people ask smart#ss questions, put it right back at 'em..
that usually shuts them up for at least 10 seconds or so.
Honestly, he sounds like a jerk, so good luck if you're dating him.
- September 23rd, 2009, 01:51 pm
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It might be possible that he's wondering where you stand on the thought of both marriage and having children, and if you are against both or either (and assuming he does want to get married and have kids in the future), he's trying to check this dealbreaker off the list before wasting any time.
- September 23rd, 2009, 01:58 pm
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it sounds like you answered the question fine. This guy sounds like a real jerk. As jayjay said...we know why he is single...

Honestly it sounds like he has been hanging out with a lower class of people, and he is projecting his 'norm' onto you.

Trust me, you don't need to feel like less of a woman because you don't have several children from different fathers.

You are just fine the way you are.
- September 23rd, 2009, 04:28 pm
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I would kindly tell him that he was being rude to me by asking those questions, at least that way!I still didn't marry because i didn't want to simply "get married", i am ok about waiting until i marry someone i deeply Love and that is hard to find.
Also if he was trying to "make your profile" he would have to be there all the years before until your present, to really know you.
I would not put up with it for sure.I would ask him the same questions and see how that would make him feel!!!
- September 23rd, 2009, 04:44 pm
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