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donalee is offline donalee Post #1  September 22,2009, 10:04pm
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Have you met someone online, talked for months or even years, you told each other you're in love with each other even if you haven't met and when you finally met, there was no spark? Or you found out that person was a cheater, etc? what's your online dating disaster story?
 
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I don't do LDRs. I want to meet my match sooner than later. I like to meet within the first week or at most two after getting to OC.

I would presume that since most of my first dates never progress to a second date that would mean that they are all disaster stories.
 
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donalee wrote :
what's your online dating disaster story?

Getting "poofed" after dating for 8+ months. Also, she had told me "I love you" numerous times during the relationship. All she could say when I confronted her was "I haven't had my morning coffee" and walk away.
 
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donalee wrote :
Have you met someone online, talked for months or even years, you told each other you're in love with each other even if you haven't met and when you finally met, there was no spark? Or you found out that person was a cheater, etc? what's your online dating disaster story?
2 yr LDR. He came to visit a few times. I couldn't afford to go down there. The visits were great. When he finally moved up here, I was waiting outside for him to arrive. He called for a bit of directions. I didn't feel all to excited for some reason. When he pulled up and had a huge grin on his face...for me it was like "oh...there he is". No excitement or anything. Aside from the great sex, we didn't have that connection we did over the phone. He didn't stay long. I felt bad because he up and moved to be with me, but it would of been more unfair to stay in a relationship where all I did was pull away.

When he was filling out the apartment application, the owner was telling us a story of a couple who were engaged, and the guy was filling out his part. They were denied because he had a felony (which the gal wasn't aware of).

Anywho, my LDR I met online but it was through an online game, not a dating site. As far as meeting guys with online dating sites, I've been used, dated a guy with no ambition (happy having nothing) and sent a lot of 1st emails and got no responses.
 
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I was contacted by a guy who seemed really nice, we had a lot in common - things were great. He lived a couple of hours away but was willing to come down to where I live to meet. He got tix to an awesome concert for us. He shows up at the coffee house ( I was driving myself) and he' older and heavier than his photos. Okay... trying not to concentrate on the physical - he's a nice guy, right? We go to the concert, have a great time and he starts pushing to stay at my place. I am not comfortable with this and offer to help him find an affordable hotel, if he's really too tired to drive. He takes me up on that. Great. We continue to talk and one day I come home to an email from a woman - his live in girlfriend! She moved in the weekend he drove down to tke me to this concert. Nice, huh? She wasn't mad at me. She had figured out the password on his match.com account and read the communications, so she knew he had contacted me initially and had lied to me the whole time. Needless to say, I stopped seeing him and she left him.
 
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travelbug922 wrote :
I was contacted by a guy who seemed really nice, we had a lot in common - things were great. He lived a couple of hours away but was willing to come down to where I live to meet. He got tix to an awesome concert for us. He shows up at the coffee house ( I was driving myself) and he' older and heavier than his photos. Okay... trying not to concentrate on the physical - he's a nice guy, right? We go to the concert, have a great time and he starts pushing to stay at my place. I am not comfortable with this and offer to help him find an affordable hotel, if he's really too tired to drive. He takes me up on that. Great. We continue to talk and one day I come home to an email from a woman - his live in girlfriend! She moved in the weekend he drove down to tke me to this concert. Nice, huh? She wasn't mad at me. She had figured out the password on his match.com account and read the communications, so she knew he had contacted me initially and had lied to me the whole time. Needless to say, I stopped seeing him and she left him.
WOW! I am so sorry you had to deal with that!! Some people are just crazy!
 
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Getting "poofed" after dating for 8+ months. Also, she had told me "I love you" numerous times during the relationship. All she could say when I confronted her was "I haven't had my morning coffee" and walk away.
I had the same thing happen to me, only it was after 18 months. We had talked of marriage. No goodbye, no explanation, no nothing. Even his parents were mystified.

I wouldn't attribute it to "online" dating though. We met that way, but calling these things "online dating disasters" only perpetuates the undeserved stigma of online dating. After all, these people exist in the "real" world, too.
 
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I wouldn't attribute it to "online" dating though. We met that way, but calling these things "online dating disasters" only perpetuates the undeserved stigma of online dating. After all, these people exist in the "real" world, too.
I know. Just kind of ruins ur day though. I wouldn't stop dating or on-line dating because of it.
 
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I met a guy on line a couple of years after my divorce. He lived on the other side of the country, and as these things go, we progressed from e mail to phone. Seven months later we finally met. I was pleased. He was pleased. We were two attractive professionals with fabulous jobs, owned our own homes etc. and had a lot in common. I'm outgoing he's a little reserved, the perfect complements, or so we thought.Then I started receiving nasty e mails from a woman who claimed to be the "wife." (BTW it's relatively easy to find out my e mail address for a number of reasons.) Turns out he filed for divorce but wasn't officially divorced, but omitted to tell me that. The wife -and rightly so - thought that I was the party responsible for her divorce. I was stalked by her relatives who lived in my neck of the woods and harrassed at all hours by threatening phone calls. We finally had to put out a restraining order on her. Needless to say with that kind of drama the relationship couldn't survive. It cost him money (to settle with her) and it cost him a great relationship with me and all because of a lie. Now I background check.
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