Can you forgive cheating early in a relationship

After a month she goes to a party and afterwards calls me in tears saying she loved me and I must forgive her. I ask what happened and she said her ex was at the party and he wouldn't leave her alone and kissed her and she said stop but he didn't listen and then she gave in and they kissed a bit but she promises she didn't let him have sex with him.

Usually Id figure this girl is either weak or unfaithful and dump her. But as it was so soon into the relationship and she wasn't sure about me and the distance and time apart had clouded everything, Im wondering if i should make an exception and give her another chance.

I met this girl in early June. She fell for me hard but I was playing it cool because I do not like to rush into relationships and she was pushing for a commitment. After a month she said she loved me and I wouldn't say it because when I say that word I really have to mean it deeply from my heart. At the start of August she went back to her country for holidays and made me promise to be faithful.

We stayed in touch via instant messenger and the occasional phone call. She was pretty bored and asked me if she could hang out with her ex boyfriends saying they were just friends. I said I didn't really feel it was appropriate and she complained a bit but accepted it.

Then she asks if she can go to a party. I said "Sure". She said "My ex boyfriend is going to be there but don't worry I won't talk to him".

Later that night she tells me that her ex boyfriend forced himself on her and kissed her and groped her. She said she loved me and wanted me to forgive her. I thought it was strange she was asking me to forgive her if she had done nothing wrong and she didn't really have a good answer.

I told her that this long distance thing wasn't working and it is better we broke things off and then had a talk when she got back and see how we felt about each other. She didn't take this well and within a few days she said she had started seeing someone new and was glad we are broken up.

I don't think she is being serious and I'm pretty sure when she is back in London she will start contacting me but im not sure what to do.

She is young and being away from each other for two months so early on in our relationship was bound to cause problems. She also wasn't really sure about me because I was holding back in London. I do not know what happened at the party but perhaps i should have given her the benefit of the doubt.

Any advice?

Definitely I made a mistake letting her talk me into being exclusive so soon. She kept insisting that casual relationships were not part of her culture (she is Middle Eastern) and was worried the girls in London would try to steal me.


I agree that she is not long term relationship material. But I was never that crazy about her in London and it is just a case of absence making the heart fonder and scrambling my feelings.