Some Observations When Going Out on the Weekend.


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justme27 is offline justme27 Post #1  September 19,2009, 7:49pm
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I've been going out a lot more recently. I noticed some rude errors people were making all night long when I went out the other night. My group of friends going out consisted of four guys and three girls. Here is what I observed:

1. If a group of friends are hanging out, especially with girls, don't "invade" the group with your crew of friends unless you've established some rapport with at least two of the male members.

2. If you're alone don't just walk up and hit on one of the girls in the group. I noticed that while we were talking and joking around one of my friends, who's a girl, kept getting hit on all night and it annoyed the hell out of her because it intruded upon our conversation.

3. If you do come and "invade" the group don't be a jerk to the male friends. It doesn't make you look cool or alpha it just pisses everyone off.

4. Don't hover around groups. (No explanation necessary)

5. Win the male members of the group over before getting to know the female members, because most male members are protective of their female friends.

If these rules sound obvious to you, as they should, then you are not the one's I'm talking about. But if this is new to you then I hope it is helpful
 
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You are assuming that what you are observing isn't a group date.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
You are assuming that what you are observing isn't a group date.
Hey Oregon Coast. Thanks for the reply. I guess I should clarify that what I was observing were things that were occuring to our group of friends. If it's a group date, then I suggest never intruding unless you are intruding as a couple and not as another group.
 
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Oh, thank you so much, sweetie... I did not know that we women are so weak and unable to say no on our own that we must have our male friends' protection when in public.
 
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Oh, thank you so much, sweetie... I did not know that we women are so weak and unable to say no on our own that we must have our male friends' protection when in public.
Hey thanks for the reply. But I really think it is annoying when a group of friends are hanging out and out of nowhere in the middle of the conversation a complete stranger butts in and starts to chat up a girl. If you want to think in terms of victimhood that's fine; I'm thinking of terms of comen decency and respect.
 
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justme27 wrote :
Hey thanks for the reply. But I really think it is annoying when a group of friends are hanging out and out of nowhere in the middle of the conversation a complete stranger butts in and starts to chat up a girl. If you want to think in terms of victimhood that's fine; I'm thinking of terms of comen decency and respect.
So what if a girl approaches the group, an attractive one especially?

I personally think things like this should be decided by the group, not by one seemingly possessive guy in the group.
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So what if a girl approaches the group, an attractive one especially?

I personally think things like this should be decided by the group, not by one seemingly possessive individual in the group.
Same deal, it's just rude. You are enjoying yourself with a group of friends and someone just butts in and intrudes upon the conversation--uninvited.

You can demonize me as ever as you like, but next time you go out--that is if you go out--and see a group of people chatting feel free to jump into the conversation and see what reaction you get. Once again, I'm not the only one to feel this way. This was something we commented about throughout the night.
 
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Same deal, it's just rude. You are enjoying yourself with a group of friends and someone just butts in and intrudes upon the conversation--uninvited.

You can demonize me as ever as you like, but next time you go out--that is if you go out--and see a group of people chatting feel free to jump into the conversation and see what reaction you get. Once again, I'm not the only one to feel this way. This was something we commented about throughout the night.
It is not my habit to approach anyone, so I can't imagine I will do that. However, I have gone out with different groups on weeknights and weekends and only the possessive or jealous in the groups would be the ones complaining about a stranger wanting to join. Of course there are exceptions: there are a few strangers who were so loud or really drunk that no one in the group wanted to be bothered by him/her.

Or perhaps I am just usually surrounded by laid back people.
 
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However, I have gone out with different groups on weeknights and weekends and only the possessive or jealous in the groups would be the ones complaining about a stranger wanting to join.
No offense, I find this observation hard to believe. Personally, I don't associate with disfunctional people; if I sensed someone was jealous or possessive I would be sure not to associate with them. Also, none of my friends are disfunctional so I'm pretty positive they would follow suit. The question you should ask yourself is: if in fact you have jealous or possessive friend, why do you have them?

I really think you are projecting your personal problems on this thread. Actually, how old are you? There may be a generational gap going on here as well. I would imagine you are over fourty, possibly fifty?
 
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Rather interesting thread.

I cannot imagine being out with a group of friends where there are both guy and girls and having strangers, either singularly or as a group, come over and want to join our party.

I would never do it and it has never happened to me nor have I ever heard it happening to any of my friends.

Very bizarre behavior me thinks.
 
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