How long have all of you been on-line dating and why?


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Wendy_BBW is offline Wendy_BBW Post #1  September 19,2009, 7:08pm
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I'm a member of eharmony and match.com and have been since July. I decided to try online dating for two reasons. I rarely run into new people because I run my business from home and all of my friends are married. What about you?
 
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Off and on for a little over two years, I think. Thought I would meet more like-minded people than In Real Life (IRL). But it's been pretty much the same as IRL, just more of it. Which got tiring for me, so I'm done with online dating.

I like this forum, though, and stick around because the people are very nice and everyone's different experiences and viewpoints make for great conversations and give me plenty to think about.

Hope you stick around and enjoy it here, too!
 
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I started a little over a year ago. I am online, because I believe if nothing else, my love life should be good for a laugh. Online dating has provided many more interesting stories than real life could guarantee. For instance, the match I was interested in most recently let me know that he was considering becoming a monk, though he wasn't catholic. I just don't meet men who can let me down so creatively in real life.
 
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I'm a firm believer that there is a nut for every squirrel

Which one I am depends on any given day....briefly in 2005 and now again at around the same time as my join date on EHA on EH. I have been going through so many changes throughout the years and finally found my proper path and now all that is missing is that special someone to be my companion. I think 29 dimensions is a good place to start looking and as they say...trust in God, but tie your camel
 
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Jacquiem wrote :
Off and on for a little over two years, I think. Thought I would meet more like-minded people than In Real Life (IRL). But it's been pretty much the same as IRL, just more of it. Which got tiring for me, so I'm done with online dating.

I like this forum, though, and stick around because the people are very nice and everyone's different experiences and viewpoints make for great conversations and give me plenty to think about.

Hope you stick around and enjoy it here, too!
Have also been in and out of online dating for about the past 2 years, since a divorce and relocating to another city and state. Agreed that the forums seems to attract a more interesting group of folks (albeit all over the place). I also recall seeing a quote by Dr Neil Warren (the founder of eHarmony), advising a single woman who was interviewing him for Slate, the online magazine. She was complaining about not meeting any satisfactory eHarmony matches, and Dr. Warren told her that her problem was that she's bright, which "eliminates 95% of her matches"! Wow, that's encouraging....
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librarybabe wrote :
the match I was interested in most recently let me know that he was considering becoming a monk, though he wasn't catholic.

Bhuddist ?
 
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Been on eHarmony for about a year. Had previously been on Chemistry since just after my divorce.

Wanted to try eHarmony since the person I'd met wanted to date around and I was not real satisfied with the matches I was getting there.

I own a retail florist so I don't seem to meet a lot of single women. Figured that online, at least I know they are looking and feel ready to date.

I've actually been pretty happy with the number and, for the most part, quality of who I've been sent.
 
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i personally feel online dating is a wonderful and yet terrible thing. it's great because you encounter those whom you'd never come across in a normal day. and it's terrible because it de-humanizes the entire process. people seem to read through profiles with the vision of everything they want, and don't seem ready to compromise with realistic expectations (i'm sure receiving 7 matches/day doesn't help). i, and surely many of you do not fit into a cookie cutter shape and yet it's what we're compared to.

i am a very patient person, but after 9 months with little to no feedback, online dating is really testing my limits.

being an engineer, runner, and soccer player... it's a continual sausage fest, and bars are not the best place to meet someone. but we've all got our reasons for trying it out.
 
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PR_Princess wrote :
I'm a firm believer that there is a nut for every squirrel
I love this!!!


I had a 6-month subscription with EH (new job and not meeting any single people...male or female). I decided on-line dating is not for me, but I still linger here on eHA long after my subscription expired.
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I was a member for eharmony for 3000 matches...about 4 to 5 years with a couple breaks.

Right now I'm dating the best person I was matched with in that time and it seems to be headed to marriage in the spring.

Online dating is just like real life in that it is about frame of mind. When you're burned out...it's time for a break. The more options you keep open to meet the right person though...the better the chances to find them.

Good luck with your search and remember your best match may live states away or more!
 
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