give ultimatum when to meet in person or just wait???


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janasian is offline janasian Post #1  September 18,2009, 10:51pm
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I am from Asia, my pal has an online lover for more than a yr, this American guy has been postponing his trip to come meet my pal, so many reasons, what to tell this guy, is it ok to give ultimatum? are they really in love or infatuated since they havent met yet?
 
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Infatuated maybe; love, I am not convinced. It's not wrong to give an ultimatum, because nobody wants to be strung along. It's just a way for her to basically move on with her life and seek a relationship elsewhere. That might actually be a healthier option. One other option is she could go to meet him.
 
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They have a fantasy relationship if they have never met in person. Nothing more. You cannot judge chemistry until you meet in person. Or ever truly know someone until you have dated (in person) for a while.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
They have a fantasy relationship if they have never met in person. Nothing more. You cannot judge chemistry until you meet in person. Or ever truly know someone until you have dated (in person) for a while.

You nailed it there.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
They have a fantasy relationship if they have never met in person. Nothing more. You cannot judge chemistry until you meet in person. Or ever truly know someone until you have dated (in person) for a while.
I completely agree with you.
 
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Your pal is in no position to be handing out ultimatums about overseas travel or anything else. If she tries it, she can expect to get laughed at, and she'll deserve it.

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AsianFusion is offline AsianFusion Post #7  September 19,2009, 4:51pm
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How can they fall in love when they haven't even met yet?
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  September 19,2009, 6:14pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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Personally I despise ultimatums.

Mostly they're bullying someone into a decision that they wouldn't have made naturally. Would you really want to hitch your wagon to someone's forced star? Not me.......but then again I am single and many of the tiranical and dogmatic women I know, are not.

You decide.
 
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