At Your Age, Do You Still Have Game?


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saulgoode is offline saulgoode Post #1  September 18,2009, 8:08am
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Here in Dallas, we have these two ya-hoos on the radio called Lex & Terry. They've been around a while, so some of you may've heard of them.

Anyway, every morning, they divvy out advice on relationships and just life in general. It's hard-hitting, common-sense, often destructive and wrong, but sometimes it's dead-on, despite the intentional shock-value of what they say and how they phrase it.

So the other day, a 40yr old woman calls in, and she's been dating a guy who's 30, mainly for the sex.

The time's come, she feels, to break it off.

Terry says, and I paraphrase, "Look you knew this day was coming. You're 40. I'm sure you still have game, and I don't mean to be the the arsehole, but let's face it -- pretty soon, you won't have game anymore. He'll be in his 30s, pulling twenty-somethings, and you won't have the game to pull a guy as young as him."

That got me thinking about game, and how it applies to us as we age.

It got me to thinking about that thread about how young/old women will go, and how a 60 year old man was, by default, "unattractive."

I suppose that advice about game, despite the sadness it might induce, is pretty true. At some point, you don't have "game" anymore, and you'll need to adjust your standards accordingly.


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I know I still got game, to find someone to play my game with - that's the question.
 
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Seriously now, What does age have to do with game??? Are you saying a person has to adjust their game as they theoreticaly age??

Age is only a number!!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  September 18,2009, 10:21am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Maybe I'm at an 'in between' age for men. I date women across an age range such that my older dates are old enough to be the mothers of my younger dates.
 
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jayjay wrote :
Maybe I'm at an 'in between' age for men. I date women across an age range such that my older dates are old enough to be the mothers of my younger dates.
Eeyike! Am sure glad my game don't play that way...

Good question, Saul!

I think it's right on. My "game" has definitely changed--for the good, IMO. And I don't want to be "pulling" in men who aren't in the same place as me.

My criteria for attractiveness have changed a bit over time--there's still certain basics I value, but now much more emphasis on his resilience, his adjustment to life events (good and bad), his ability to be an imperfect human being. And most of all, his ability to comprehend that he, like me, is aging and all the pretty stuff is going to be gone one day.

What's left is who he is.

Guy came in my office today, and as has happened so many times before, I saw myself in twenty years--mid 70's, body systems just not cooperating with each other anymore, not living in fantasyland but still with romantic ideas about his wife. If you saw this guy on the street, you might call him an "alter Kocker" and not look twice.

But like me, like you, and like every single darn person on here--he is what I will become one day if I live that long and am lucky enough to learn from my life as I go.

And I half fell in love with him on the spot.

yeah, I got game, and want to play with somebody that gets it about the rules change--alla the time.
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jayjay wrote :
Maybe I'm at an 'in between' age for men. I date women across an age range such that my older dates are old enough to be the mothers of my younger dates.
So have you dated a mother and the daughter?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #7  September 18,2009, 10:59am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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So have you dated a mother and the daughter?
No. There have been times when I would have liked to ask a woman to set me up with her daughter....but I have always resisted this temptation.
 
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jayjay wrote :
No. There have been times when I would have liked to ask a woman to set me up with her daughter....but I have always resisted this temptation.
You probably would have been spanked for asking!
 
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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You probably would have been spanked for asking!
Well....maybe slapped. But simplemind is right.....and I'm aging just like everybody else.
 
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...and that's not necessarily something to be sad about.

It's just different, is all.
 
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