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eHarmony Labs' Dr. Steve Carter delves into social science and finds that nerves are a guys' best friend when it comes to getting high rates from your date.
- July 5th, 2007, 09:00 am
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i'm in my early 40's and starting over after a 24 years of marriage. have the rules changed that much as what to do or not do on the first date?
- August 5th, 2007, 11:56 am
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Hi Kathy:

No, not much has changed since then. Just go out and have a good time and not worry about rules. Rules are only restraints. Your not playing golf or tennis, it is a date, just relax and see where the cool night takes you.

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- August 16th, 2007, 12:26 am
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Cool Idea, skydiving on the first date. That will definetily impress your partner. I just have doubts it will be positive. Don't forget your parachute to bring with you, especially if you meet in a nice restaurant. It might be awkward, and the response of the staff might be not very funny for you.....
- November 3rd, 2007, 10:46 am
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Kathy, Just my opinion. A nice restaurant, not too expensive, he pays. Lots of conversation, a good night kiss, but only if you like him.
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- November 27th, 2007, 10:19 pm
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1st dates; football games, dinner dates, Art Nite; all the same for me, boring. Yes, I must be dating wrong men for me, but I wont know it till I try it. Next, horseback riding, dancing, diving, active & outside.
- December 9th, 2007, 05:06 pm
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There's nothing like a night at the ballpark in the summer with a beer and a dog! That's the perfect first date for me, and I'm a girl!
- December 11th, 2007, 08:10 pm
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hkmueller wrote :
There's nothing like a night at the ballpark in the summer with a beer and a dog! That's the perfect first date for me, and I'm a girl!
...especially when there's a ball game in town....and I prefer Irish Setters.
- April 30th, 2008, 12:46 pm
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Dinner, Good conversatation (sp?), then at least a hug goodnight...depends on the guy, the mood, chemistry, etc. I can just as easily enjoy a ballgame with someone I like as a dress-up dinner and a movie. BTW- skydiving sounds like fun for me, but I'm just nuts enough to do it for the heck of it anyways.
- April 30th, 2008, 01:01 pm
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Anela wrote :
1st dates; football games, dinner dates, Art Nite; all the same for me, boring. Yes, I must be dating wrong men for me, but I wont know it till I try it. Next, horseback riding, dancing, diving, active & outside.
I appreciate that you might find it boring, but.. you might want to cut the guys a little slack. The first date is that sort of "getting to know you" phase, and I personally don't want to throw a prospective girlfriend into a situation whereshe will be miserable or could even get injured (especially with how people tend to "talk themselves up" inaccurately online). From your list: taking someone to the nature center/hiking can painfully backfire if they have bad allergies, are asthmatic, and/or lie about their physical conditioning (this incident actually happened when I was on a date); horseback riding can be dangerous if the person doesn't know what they're doing; dancing.. well, that one actually works if I know the other person can dance (or, like me, is willing to fake it) . I just can't see taking a girl on what I would consider an ultra-exciting date, either("Do you know what Mixed Martial Arts is? There's an amateur/semipro event tonight, and that's what we're going to watch!. And there's a chance one of the other fighters is too injured to compete, so I might jump in and get the snot beat out of me - you may have to drive us home. By the way, there's a women's division that's always looking for competitors, so if you're interested... WAIT! Where are you going?!") - two people need to get to know each-other first.

So, I appreciate that you think the standard first dates are boring, but maybe give the guys until the second date to pull out the dangerous stuff..? That's just how I view things.

- April 30th, 2008, 01:41 pm
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