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Gosh I have not posted anything on here in a long time. My dating life has been very busy. Here is the puzzling experience that I had recently to which I would like to get some reaction. A woman I had been seeing for several months 'let me down easy' via email. Getting dumped is not easy but it is early on, so its not a crushing blow. The worst part about it, was the way that it was done; via email. I have never done that to anyone and I have always assumed that this was a lousy approach to ending a dating relationship. Any thoughts?
- September 16th, 2009, 08:08 am
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That is how my girlfriend did it and I agree it was realy lame. It would have been much better if she had been able to simply talk to me personaly. I was in the middle of my work day. LOL! There I was trying to keep my emotions in check during meetings, conference calls, and direct interactions with my team mates. Not called for and not fair.

Than a week latter she calls me at 9:30 at night and begs me to take her back. Not sure what to do with that...

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- September 16th, 2009, 08:18 am
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Oh, I'm so sorry. I think breaking up with someone with an email is terrible. It shows a real lack of consideration in my opinion. Not to make excuses for anyone, but I guess I can understand the reasoning behind it. Many people, (myself included), have a hard time expressing themselves properly over the phone or in person; and it is easier to write out your feelings and take time to say what you have to say. I still think it's a lousy way to dump someone though.
- September 16th, 2009, 08:19 am
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MW.. sorry to hear that. I agree it's a lousy way to end a relationship. You may also want to read this thread..
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- September 16th, 2009, 08:59 am
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yeah cap'n, this board is rehash of rehash of the same topics. There must be a billion threads on paying for dates. You could probably have 20 constant threads open that cover every topic that people post a new thread for.
- September 16th, 2009, 09:03 am
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ummm perhaps some people don't want to read through a thread with 10+ pages... so I don't see a problem with a new thread with a fresh perspective.

just saying....
- September 16th, 2009, 09:07 am
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Getting dumped via email MAY not be appropriate.. but is becoming more common... Saying "move on" .. may sound callous to the one who feel's rejected.. but fact is ..that's what you need to do... there are plenty of singles out there.. dont dwell on it too much.. take some positive action..
- September 16th, 2009, 09:10 am
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Ms666 wrote :
ummm perhaps some people don't want to read through a thread with 10+ pages... so I don't see a problem with a new thread with a fresh perspective.

just saying....
I understand what you're saying.. It is a recent thread that might already have a fresh perspective. just providing an option to the op while he is waiting for thoughts to be posted on this thread.
- September 16th, 2009, 09:15 am
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people who do this are cowards! i hate it when it happens.
- September 16th, 2009, 09:29 am
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Actually, you are a little bit lucky. I had one women who I had been dating for several months. At one point, she just stopped communicating. She didn't respond to emails and she never returned my calls. One day she sends me a post card from her vacation telling me that she misses me. Three days later, she tells me that she has to work on Saturday and I never hear another word.
- September 16th, 2009, 09:36 am
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