would you date with someone who has genital herpes?


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faith_honesty is offline faith_honesty Post #1  September 15,2009, 11:43pm
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i met a guy online and we were dating
he told me he checked for STDs and he said he is clean
he asked me to have sex without protection
come to find out he had genital herpes medicine in his room
i freak out and left
would you date with someone who has genital herpes?
 
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Well first of all, some medicines used for genital herpes can be used for other things as well. You need to get yourself checked, come clean about the medicine you saw and ask him what it is for.
 
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I would feel embarrassed if I was you. The guy either lied to you, or the test came back wrong. Right there would be a deal breaker for me no matter what. It is a matter of respect, and both parties need to be honest with one another. I would get tested again afterwards. Does not matter where you meet a person, it is your right to ask for a test and the person to be honest.
 
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yes i did ask him and he did admit that he has genital herpes
 
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Get yourself to a doctor and get checked for everything including HIV, you will likely have to get the HIV now, three months, six months, 1 year. Hopefully when you slept with him he was not having an outbreak. But you still need to get checked. Don't be afraid to tell your doctor about what happened he/she has heard it all. Never take a guys word for it, use a condom from now on. I hope you come out okay
 
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Why would you even consider dating someone who lied to you about having a sexually-transmitted disease?

If you are informed, then you have the option to make a decision about whether you wish to move forward (taking whatever steps are needed to minimize risk). However, it appears that he manipulated you so that you would have unprotected sex with him (which is definitely not cool...).

(BTW - if you look in the "Similar Threads" list at the bottom of the page, you'll find a few of the other threads on the boards that deal with the herpes question...)
 
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Yes, go get tested right away. If you had sex when he broke out, you can easily gotten it too. Just be careful next time. I am a nice guy, and I know I am clean. However, I would get tested for a girl and show her the results. He has lied to you, and there is no reason to stay in this relationship. Just be more careful. Yes, I know sexuak stimulation is excellent, but it can cost you later.
 
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well i didnt have sex with him and left his house
during we were dating we just kissed
after i asked him he did admit he has genital herpes and apologized
he said he is in love with me and wants to marry me so thats why he thought it is ok to have sex without protection and ok to have oral sex
i have feeling for him but YES HE DID LIE to me and was trying to manipulate me
i believe he is still on a few dating site even thought he said he is in love with me and wants to marry me
i think i have to move forward because i cant allow myself to have genital herpes
 
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whatalife1683 wrote :
I would feel embarrassed if I was you. The guy either lied to you, or the test came back wrong. Right there would be a deal breaker for me no matter what. It is a matter of respect, and both parties need to be honest with one another. I would get tested again afterwards. Does not matter where you meet a person, it is your right to ask for a test and the person to be honest.
Why should she feel embarrassed?
 
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NEVER have unprotected sex with anyone you are not married to.
 
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