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I've gotten to Open Communication recently with two different men. Things were going well and some nice conversations back and forth with both. Then all of a sudden one said he had some "job opportunities" that he was going to look in to for retirement and that he would be gone for a month or so. He said he would email me when he got back. That was just weird. First of all, who can take a month off of work all of a sudden? Is he really maybe dating another woman and wants to see how that goes, yet keep me hanging. Funny thing, then the second person did the same exact thing. Said he was traveling around all of a sudden booking music gigs and will be gone for a few weeks, so "stay flexible" and "stay in touch". What is up with all that? I closed out the first guy that said he was going to be gone for a month....has this ever happened to anyone else? What are these people up to, it just sounds weird...
 
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There are many different types of people on this planet dong many different things... I'm not surprised by what people do. Could they be lying? Yes of course. Could they be telling the truth... Indeed, yes.

Do you have to deal with these people? No.

Does it kill you to keep them open? You paid for the connection. Do what you want with them. It is your life and your dollar.
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Mystified101 wrote :
Hi,
I've gotten to Open Communication recently with two different men. Things were going well and some nice conversations back and forth with both. Then all of a sudden one said he had some "job opportunities" that he was going to look in to for retirement and that he would be gone for a month or so. He said he would email me when he got back. That was just weird. First of all, who can take a month off of work all of a sudden? Is he really maybe dating another woman and wants to see how that goes, yet keep me hanging. Funny thing, then the second person did the same exact thing. Said he was traveling around all of a sudden booking music gigs and will be gone for a few weeks, so "stay flexible" and "stay in touch". What is up with all that? I closed out the first guy that said he was going to be gone for a month....has this ever happened to anyone else? What are these people up to, it just sounds weird...
They may be telling the truth, they may not be. The fact is, you're only in communication with these people, you don't really know them, and you never can tell. In your shoes, I would pursue other matches. People have their reasons for doing things, and they don't always make sense to the rest of us.
 
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Could these people be lying? Yes they could be.

Could they be telling the truth? That wouldn't surprise me either.

Do you have to deal with them? No... but, you paid for the connection that brought you together.

What does it cost you to keep them open?
 
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From what little information we have it does seem a bit weird. And people that are traveling these days usually have a laptop and most hotels provide internet access.

I am going to take a dark side guess that there may be a bit of police action involved here.

In any case I suspect that in the long term these people are not a good match for you if for no other reason than differences in lifestyle. You probably correctly closed them and hopefully you will receive some more compatible matches soon.
 
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Gr8Guy....a little confused. What did you mean by that there might be some "police action" involved?
 
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Sounds like guys that just aren't interested in you.
 
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Yea, I would assume they aren't as interested as you thought. I wouldn't wait on them. I would pursue other matches in the meantime.
 
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I would not worry about the ones that got away, move forward with some new ones. The Bird in the hand thing! You might have said something similar to the both of them that might have been a red flag? Thought that you might be trouble down the road, so they move on.

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Mystified101 wrote :
Hi,
I've gotten to Open Communication recently with two different men. Things were going well and some nice conversations back and forth with both. Then all of a sudden one said he had some "job opportunities" that he was going to look in to for retirement and that he would be gone for a month or so. He said he would email me when he got back. That was just weird. First of all, who can take a month off of work all of a sudden? Is he really maybe dating another woman and wants to see how that goes, yet keep me hanging. Funny thing, then the second person did the same exact thing. Said he was traveling around all of a sudden booking music gigs and will be gone for a few weeks, so "stay flexible" and "stay in touch". What is up with all that? I closed out the first guy that said he was going to be gone for a month....has this ever happened to anyone else? What are these people up to, it just sounds weird...
I can tell you that people that "book music gigs" these days live and die by their email and internet access, so I can't imagine why he wouldn't be able to stay in contact.

Doesn't pass the sniff test. Total B.S.
 
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