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It was brought up in another thread that men and women may define commitment in a relationship differently.

So how would you define commitment? What would it look like to you? And what would you have to see in the opposite sex in order to be willing to commit to them (other than of course being gorgeous.)?

Lizzie's added question: At what level of commitment does it mean forever?
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- September 15th, 2009, 10:40 am
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librarybabe wrote :
It was brought up in another thread that men and women may define commitment in a relationship differently.

So how would you define commitment? What would it look like to you? And what would you have to see in the opposite sex in order to be willing to commit to them (other than of course being gorgeous.)?
I think everyone has thier own opinion on commitment. I for one am pretty strict about it once I am in a relationship. In the 13 years I was married, I never once broke the golden rule and I had every opportunity to since I travel for a living.

To me trust and commitment go hand and hand and if you cannot trust and be committed to the person your with then you have no business being with them.
- September 15th, 2009, 10:48 am
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I believe it is true that you have to trust the person I was with the nicest guy, but he lied repeatedly which meant i could not trust him and I had no respect. One needs respect and with the respect comes truth and fullfilment
- September 15th, 2009, 11:16 am
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librarybabe wrote :
So how would you define commitment?
So in thinking about this question....the first thing that comes to mind is 'commitment' being defined as an exclusive relationship. Maybe it encompasses other things....such as an implied dedication to sticking with the relationship even if something comes up that may threaten it.
- September 15th, 2009, 11:21 am
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I would define commitment as the choice to make the relationship a priority and communicate realistic expectations -- not being distracted by other options or minor setbacks. Exclusivity/trust and the attitude that you're in the relationship for the long haul (as jayjay stated) are consistent with my idea of commitment. I also think that commitment and what it means to each partner needs to be clearly communicated before it can be assumed -- what may seem obvious to one partner may not be part of the other's concept of commitment.
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To me commitment is a mutual understanding between 2 people, that we will stay loyal, we will not cheat, we will work through the hard times as well as we can, and in the end, if we dont want to be commited to this person, we will speak up, an take the appropriate actions there after. (whatever those actions may be)

To me commitment is where I give myself, all of myself to a relationship. Commitment to me is basically engagment or marriage, anything up to that is what it is.
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From the Urban Dictionary
Commitment: sticking with something long after the mood you have said it in has left you.. (that's the only definition from this site that I can post here)

I suppose to get into a committed relationship I need to have seen quite a bit of behavior by a woman that I like....so that if I then see something I don't like I'm still willing to stick around and deal with it. Whereas, if I see some behavior I really don't like early on I'll be gone.

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This is a good question. So what does commitment mean to you LibraryBabe?

I think that pds857 is closest but you need to have exclusivity in the definition.

And you need to have committed to the relationship well before engagement or marriage.
- September 15th, 2009, 12:25 pm
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Well, just speaking generally commitment has a whole range of levels, from "I will be there at 7 for dinner" to "I will pursue an exclusive relationship with you" to "I will spend the rest of my life with you through thick and thin". Different levels of commitment are appropriate to different stages of a relationship, but I don't think commitment is a switch that you suddenly flip from off to on overnight.

In the sense of the phrase "a committed relationship", I'd say it means something a little more than just exclusive dating, but I'd be hard-pressed to quantify it exactly.
- September 15th, 2009, 12:51 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is a good question. So what does commitment mean to you LibraryBabe?

I think that pds857 is closest but you need to have exclusivity in the definition.

And you need to have committed to the relationship well before engagement or marriage.
I was gonna say exclusivity, but I wasnt sure it was a word plus thats a lotta word for this lil country gal. lol

But I pretty much agree with Laced, an Cardguy I believe his name is.

There are stages of commitment, but there has to be a Mutual Understanding between the two that are entering into the 'Commited' relationship.
- September 15th, 2009, 01:08 pm
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