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I was gonna say exclusivity, but I wasnt sure it was a word plus thats a lotta word for this lil country gal. lol
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Exclusivity is indeed a word (and I even spelled it correctly). Given that Florida trails the nation with either 49th or 50th in education Kentucky certainly has better schools
- September 15th, 2009, 01:23 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Exclusivity is indeed a word (and I even spelled it correctly). Given that Florida trails the nation with either 49th or 50th in education Kentucky certainly has better schools
LOL Ok thanks for the info, I still dont think I say it right though, so I'ma stick with leavin it outta my vocab for now lol
With my accent, I can mess jus bout any word up lol.
- September 15th, 2009, 02:00 pm
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The way i think of commitment is exclusivity, planning for the future, being there for each other with mutual support and encouragement, keeping the relationship alive and not letting it stagnate...
All pretty standard stuff i suppose, my only real problem with it is when i'm with someone who thinks you're not committed if you're not mentioning it every five minutes. or knuckling under in every disagreement because if i was really committed i'd swallow any rubbish that's put in front of me for the sake of the relationship.
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The way i think of commitment is exclusivity, planning for the future, being there for each other with mutual support and encouragement, keeping the relationship alive and not letting it stagnate...
All pretty standard stuff i suppose, my only real problem with it is when i'm with someone who thinks you're not committed if you're not mentioning it every five minutes. or knuckling under in every disagreement because if i was really committed i'd swallow any rubbish that's put in front of me for the sake of the relationship.
I was wondering what you would say, since you were the one who originally suggested (on another thread) that men & women may have different definitions. Maybe women just always want to "TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP" all the time and you don't see the point? Maybe we'll have to see when more women answer the question if they differ so very much, because most of you guys are saying pretty much similar definitions.
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Is it just me or are the definitions of commitment pretty similar between posters?? Maybe a better question is at what level of commitment does it mean forever??

(And do you even want forever??)
- September 15th, 2009, 02:56 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
So what does commitment mean to you LibraryBabe?
I'm just asking the questions for now. I'll let you sweat out the answers.
- September 15th, 2009, 02:57 pm
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I think commitment means different things to different people, but there has to be a total agreement between 2 partners.
- September 15th, 2009, 02:58 pm
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librarybabe wrote :
I was wondering what you would say, since you were the one who originally suggested (on another thread) that men & women may have different definitions. Maybe women just always want to "TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP" all the time and you don't see the point? Maybe we'll have to see when more women answer the question if they differ so very much, because most of you guys are saying pretty much similar definitions.
lol! That is what I was thinking.
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LizziePooh wrote :
Is it just me or are the definitions of commitment pretty similar between posters?? Maybe a better question is at what level of commitment does it mean forever??

(And do you even want forever??)
That's what I noticed, so far. Ok, Lizzie, I'll add it to the OP & then you can answer. Of course, not many are answering the other part of the question, what qualities in a mate they are looking that would inspire them to become committed. (Wait that didn't sound right.) Maybe that is too much like an Eharmony question to want to touch.
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librarybabe wrote :
It was brought up in another thread that men and women may define commitment in a relationship differently.

So how would you define commitment? What would it look like to you? And what would you have to see in the opposite sex in order to be willing to commit to them (other than of course being gorgeous.)?
I define commitment as an action or choice by me, which is delivered. That is, if I say I will do XYZ, then that is exactly what I do. I don't have a different definition for commitment within a relationship.

He needs to display the same attitude. I absolutely loathe it when people say they will do something or be there for you and then are not. I'm referring to people who could make a living from this unattractive skill, not the occasional mishap; because no one is perfect - least of all myself.
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