plfdmom is offline plfdmom Post #1  September 14,2009, 8:45pm
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I met someone through eharmony in Spring 2007. We dated (I thought exclusively). Found out later after being intimate with him that he had another eharmony match on the side.

Now he wants to see me...I keep postponing as I don't want to be duped again by him.

Has this happened to anyone else? In real life or through eharmony?

Am I just doomed in love? LOL
 
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Bootsky is offline Bootsky Post #2  September 15,2009, 1:16pm
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No,you are not doomed in love. It happens to a lot of people. I would definitely not go back to the past, especially to someone who did that to you. I am a firm believer that if he feels he was able to get one over on you then, he will probably think he can do it again. Unless you are willing to take that chance of getting hurt again.

There is someone better out there for you. You just have to keep looking.
 
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pds857 is offline pds857 Post #3  September 15,2009, 1:19pm
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Dont Walk ... RUN away from this fella.
Dont set ya self up for failure. Its the most painful kinda to some degrees.
 
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If he lied to you and told you that he wasn't dating anyone else when he in fact was, that is a very serious breach of trust.

If you "assumed" that you were exclusive -- but it's not something that the two of you discussed explicitly and that you both agreed to -- then I'm afraid that this is an unfortunate lesson.

If you decide to continue seeing him, then I hope you will have a very direct and clear discussion about about these issues so you will both be on the same page. If he wishes to continue dating more than one woman, you will have to decide if this is something that you're willing to accept (with or without sexual intimacy).
 
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