VB_Girl is offline VB_Girl Post #1  September 13,2009, 7:30pm
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At what point do you confess to a date that you like them and enjoy spending time with them as opposed to saying you had fun on the date and should do it again? Obviously if you are dating you clearly like the person, but when do you actually say the words? I'm looking for a number here.
 
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CJF is offline CJF Post #2  September 13,2009, 7:34pm
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I am going to go with 3.

I have no good reason at all but 3 is not too few and not too many ;-)
 
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On a few occassions I have said this on the the first date either walking her back to the car or leaving a restaurant.
 
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CJF wrote :
I am going to go with 3.

I have no good reason at all but 3 is not too few and not too many ;-)
I think the third date is a good time too. If you've already shared your first kiss...which may happen on the first or second date (for me it's usually the second)...then you know if you have any chemistry - then I'd feel comfortable telling a guy that I like him.
 
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :
I think the third date is a good time too. If you've already shared your first kiss...which may happen on the first or second date (for me it's usually the second)...then you know if you have any chemistry - then I'd feel comfortable telling a guy that I like him.
This was the number I had in mind too, glad to see others concur.
 
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Hmmm... never had the guts to tell a lady I like her. Maybe that's why I'm 27 and still dateless.
 
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My question is why wouldn't you tell someone you like them on the first date.

I'm sure we've all walked away from a date and had a wonderful time. but there is always that doubt in your mind.. Hmm I wonder is she liked me?
Now of course (and i'm going back to 6th grade here) there is "I like you" and there is "I LIKE YOU!!"

I recently had a date tell me she liked me at the end of our date. She said" i like you, you're funny you made me laugh" tonight!

I don't know I would like to hear it sometimes.. Kind of takes the guessing out of it. That way I dont have to hit the boards an hour after and ask you all your opinion on how you all thought my date went!
 
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VB_girl, just my personal preference, but I tell someone that when I'm feeling it. Liking someone doesn't commit you to marriage or anything more than "this is what I'm feeling right now". IMO, it just tells someone you're having a good time in his company and like how he's put together--and in a way also tells him you hope to see more of him.

If a guy runs at hearing you like him; you may want to run the other way, too.
 
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I don't think there's a number. It's when your gut tells you a real connection has been made.
 
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I don't have a specific number, it feels like if i say it before i've spent enough time with someone to really reach that conclusion then it will sound false, like something that's just being said to move things along.
On the other hand sometimes you go out with people you have an amazing time with right from the start and then it feels false not to say something.
I guess for me it depends on how i'm reading how things are going, i say things like "I like you" or "I want to take things to the next level" when it feels like they need to be said.
I used to be a lot quicker coming to those conclusions, until it was pointed out to me that it might make me seem overeager, or that i'm pushing things too fast. Then of course when i slowed things down i was accused of being afraid to commit.
 
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