Is this his "polite" way of blowing me off?


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onesoggywaffle is offline onesoggywaffle Post #1  September 13,2009, 1:10pm
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Ok, here's a short history: Met a great guy on EH, he said he'd like to go out again (when I said I'd like that too he even said "I hope you're not just saying that and end up emailing me that you're not interested!), called me the next day, emailed me the next week, etc. Anyway, my communication with him has been very limited the week following our date but this past week I got an email from him.

In a nutshell it said: "I want to sincerely apologize for the lack of communication. I didn't want you to think I had forgotten about you. Work is unusually busy this week. I'm still interested in getting to know you better even though that might not have been evident over the past few days". He asked me how my week had been, what I've been up to, etc. Haven't heard from him since he sent this email on Wednesday.

Should I trust that he IS truly busy, or do you think he's blowing me off "politely"?

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As a male, I would like to think that he is both busy and possibly a bit hesitant. If he was blowing you off, I don't see why he would take the time to add "I'm still interested in getting to know you". Maybe he is slightly shy and is looking for a stronger reaction from you? Hope this helps and good luck!
 
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To me, he's being very clear: he's been busy and doesn't want to think he's blowing you off. Why are you even questioning it?
 
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Yeah, I just don't know...I guess I tihnk that he should have at least ten minutes in his day to write me back. I guess I think if he was truly interested, that he'd make time. Am I wrong?
 
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I never met during the week, and only replied to communication. Some people really are busy, I would believe him (for now.) I always used to be specific about my time constraints, and women were my first priority after work and school. That said, I could make at least some time most weekends, so I would not let multiple weeks go by without seeing a partner.
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onesoggywaffle wrote :
Ok, here's a short history: Met a great guy on EH, he said he'd like to go out again (when I said I'd like that too he even said "I hope you're not just saying that and end up emailing me that you're not interested!), called me the next day, emailed me the next week, etc. Anyway, my communication with him has been very limited the week following our date but this past week I got an email from him.

In a nutshell it said: "I want to sincerely apologize for the lack of communication. I didn't want you to think I had forgotten about you. Work is unusually busy this week. I'm still interested in getting to know you better even though that might not have been evident over the past few days". He asked me how my week had been, what I've been up to, etc. Haven't heard from him since he sent this email on Wednesday.

Should I trust that he IS truly busy, or do you think he's blowing me off "politely"?

Thanks in advance.
is this that same guy that you asked about prior? blah i think he has other women in the wings, which is fine as long as you are multi-dating also. since you are picking apart his communications i'm going to guess either that you arent or you are very interested in this dude.

if it were me i wouldnt be stringing it out. if he is too busy to communicate he is probably too busy to date all that much or is dating others he finds more interesting. i forgot how long you have been talking to this guy, but if he hasnt expressed an interest in meeting ftf after emailing over weeks i would interpret that as he is involved with someone or not all that interested in you. i'd pass.
 
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Thanks. D_Lion. I may give that a try. I just don't get why he went out of his way to make sure I knew he wasn't blowing me off, if he really IS blowing me off (which I think he is). Hrmph.
 
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onesoggywaffle wrote :
Yeah, I just don't know...I guess I tihnk that he should have at least ten minutes in his day to write me back. I guess I think if he was truly interested, that he'd make time. Am I wrong?

[FONT=Arial]Yes. It is not just time, it is presence of mind. I reply promptly to specific logistical questions from women (“can we meet at 6:30?”) but might need a lot of time, and the right frame of mind, to answer complex questions (“tell me about your childhood”), which many women ask in the pre-date / very early dating context. These questions often take an hour to compose, which I don't have during the week, and I tend to lose interest when I get them, too.
 
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Thanks, Nanette. If he ever does contact me again, I think I'm just going to forget him if he doesn't make a move.
 
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onesoggywaffle wrote :
Yeah, I just don't know...I guess I tihnk that he should have at least ten minutes in his day to write me back. I guess I think if he was truly interested, that he'd make time. Am I wrong?
I think you are wrong. I have a very busy hectic schedule and sometime can't return emails for a day or two. I say give it time...if you guys begin dating and THEN he can't email you within a week - THEN you have a problem...Otherwise, I think he has made it clear that he wants to get to know you...
 
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