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rybelles is offline rybelles Post #1  September 11,2009, 8:50pm
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contact you first? If you look at a girl's profile and are interested, do you wait or do you contact them soon after seeing their profile?

I have a "new" match and honestly it's the first time so far that I got a big ol' smile on my face when I saw his picture. He viewed my profile, but I got nothin'. I'm not usually shy, but does this indicate he's not all that interested if he views me and does not contact me?

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Kingpin54 is offline Kingpin54 Post #2  September 12,2009, 9:07pm
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Ever think of the perfect thing to say after you send a message? He could be collecting some thoughts on what to say. There might not have been enough time at the moment he was checkin' ya out. Could be a number of different reasons. Yes it is possible that he is not interested but lets not consider that option just yet He looked so he is somewhat interested. Sending him a message will make you stand out a bit more and as a guy I sure wouldn't mind getting the first message.
 
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yoga_gal is offline yoga_gal Post #3  September 12,2009, 9:09pm
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Welcome, Rybelles! I have seen many posts from guys on here that have shared that they welcome contact from a girl. I look at it this way. If you don't try you will never know. You are spending money on a service so take advantage of it.

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Laughingdaily is offline Laughingdaily Post #4  September 12,2009, 9:15pm
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There is nothing wrong with women who send a first contact. Looking over what I have had recently there have been5 women who contacted me, and I have only sent 3 first contacts out. I am not aware of any "rule" that says women can not send a first contact.

As for looking at profiles, sometimes it takes a little time to decide whether to send a contact, so some may look at a profile a few times first.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #5  September 12,2009, 9:15pm
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Yes, it is fine if a woman contacts me.

I don't know about anybody else, but when I was doing eH, I had to click the name to see the profile AND the picture? Is/was there a way you can see pictures without looking at profiles. I see so many people that say, "They looked at my profile but didn't send questions." Was there something in my settings I could have changed?
 
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theweave is offline theweave Post #6  September 12,2009, 9:24pm
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I would love it if a female contacted me first! At least I know she is a paying memberr and will continue communication! I am counting down the days until the Canadian Thanksgiving FC Weekend!!!!! That is about the only time I get action!
 
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Big_Bopper is offline Big_Bopper Post #7  September 12,2009, 9:46pm
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Definitely!
eH might be a little different, but a lot of e-dating sites are just full of guys wanting to get laid, consequently some guys don’t want to come on too strong too fast.
Even if you just send him an icebreaker, it indicates that you’re receptive to communication.
 
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gothustartus is offline gothustartus Post #8  September 12,2009, 11:58pm
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Difficult to say without knowing the guy, some will sit there and respond to every offering as they read them, some will read through them all before deciding which (if any) they want to respond to, some will go off and think about it for a while.
My position is if you're interested then say so, he'll either respond positively or he won't, either way you've got an answer.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #9  September 13,2009, 12:19am
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In principle I'd be happy to have a woman contact me. However, on a site such as eH....if I look at a woman's profile and don't contact her it means I'm really not that interested. Or, at least that I have other possibilities that I'm much more interested in.
 
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drodeghero is offline drodeghero Post #10  September 13,2009, 12:23am
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Try just saying "Hi."

Truly, what is the worst that can happen? He doesn't like that he messaged you first?

Isn't that the same as him not messaging you at all?
 
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