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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  September 13,2009, 9:36am
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D_Lion wrote :
This is a good point.

About the difference between eH and Match. On eH you get a few matches given to you, so you should communicate as often as possible.

On Match you’ll get 100’s, 1,000’s, or more depending on your search parameters. Men will get nearly all their e-mails ignored, forcing them to send a lot of e-mail or give up, while women get swamped with e-mail and ignore most of it.

On Match, women should definitely initiate with anyone they’re interested in.
When I was on Match I had the same 13 matches for nearly the whole year that I was a paid member. Even today, a year later most of those same girls show up and there is only a couple of new ones. And I have fairly wide search parameters and live in a city of 2 million.

Nearly all my e-mails were ignored or the girls were non-paying members. Of the four girls that actually did communicate with me it seemed that they got very few guys sending them e-mails.

Just my experience with Match.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
When I was on Match I had the same 13 matches for nearly the whole year that I was a paid member. Even today, a year later most of those same girls show up and there is only a couple of new ones. And I have fairly wide search parameters and live in a city of 2 million.

There must be something very different about your area or how you set the service.
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Reasons I'll check out a profile but not respond:

1. I already have 1 or 2 in varying stages of communication and don't want more so you may be on deck when these two fizzle out.

2. I am vaguely interested and like 95% of your profile but there is that 5% that I don't like that I can't get out of my mind.

3. I don't like you.
 
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Rainfallgirl wrote :
I read a relationship book which said, in general, better matches will occur if the woman contacts men. The type of men that are a little nervous about contacting you (but that are attracted to you) are just not sure what you will think of them so it makes it easier to get things rolling. Once they know you are interested then your job is done.

As a result I contact any man that peaks my interest at all. You don't need to be unfeminine about it but just make it clear you are interested and go ahead and initiate contact and be just a little flirtatious about it. It is refreshing and flattering to men to be singled out like this. If they are interested they will take up the chase. It just reassures them that you are attracted to them and as a result they are less scared of being rejected.

I like it ALSO because it gives you a better feel for how this is a numbers game (which it is) and what rejection feels like, if it turns out he is not interested. It is helpful to know how it feels to wear men's shoes in this department. This is good because you also feel more powerful in that there are so many to choose from and you are doing the choosing, not waiting like a wallflower to get picked.
I agree....very well said....
 
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