1st phone call, Way too much personal info ! What is she doing????


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charlie990 is offline charlie990 Post #71  September 14,2009, 8:55am
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chawks64 wrote :
Hey wait! Guys, don't automatically write off the broke chicks!

I admit, I'm not rolling in the dough. I have a tough time paying the bills every month, but it's not due to irresponsibility or lack of effort. Some of us spent a huge chunk of our adult lives taking care of our families and making sure our spouse was able to do everything he needed in order to succeed. So now he's pulling in 6 figures and I'm paycheck to paycheck. Never took a dime of alimony, but that's now a mark against me?

Would it be easier financialy if I was married to or living with a man? Sure. It would be easier for BOTH of us. One rent check, one electric bill... it just is. But that doesn't mean I'm looking to be rescued. I've been with millionaires and guys that were barely making it as well, and the decisions to date them or dump them never had anything to do with money.

Being broke sometimes has more to do with putting other people's dreams above our own potential to make money. Not always a smart choice, but history is history, and I am what I am.

As far as the giving out WAY too much personal info, yeah, well that sounds like me. Especially when I haven't dated for a while, I will just run off at the mouth. It's partly the ADHD, partly nerves and partly feeling comfortable with someone. I know I do it on my very first job interview as well, so I always try to have a "throw away" interview that I can blow it on and then do well on the rest.
Money money money ...really..its NOT that important .. and you are by no means alone in struggling to keep afloat .. the initial poster KNEW his date was in financial trouble and (in my opinion) should NOT have expected to be repaid ,,all the signs were there that he was dealing with an individual who was NOT fiscally responsible .. at the end of the day .. most people will look for an easy way out ..or just SOMETHING that will get them by the next few days ..life can be VERY tough ..We need for more tolerance of each other and more understanding.. personally I really dont mind of someone gives out 'too much' info.. actually ..I feel flattered that they are trusting and comfortable enough to freely rant...
 
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Good afternoon from the left coast. Update time. She called me this morning to see about meeting on Wednesday. Time is still to be determined as she has some things to do that morning that can not be shifted around.

She did sound like she was excited when we talked. She also said that maybe we could go to a park or some other quieter place to talk some more after we meet at the restaurant.

To be continued and I will post updates as this unfolds.
 
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Laughingdaily... she is obviously slightly self-conscious about her financial situation. Possibly this was magnified because she sensed that you are in a decent financial situation? I imagine that she was saying: Well, this is what it is, are you still interested?

She quite possibly liked you and wanted to put it out there so as not to waste time / emotions and set herself up for rejection at some later date. That's my guess.
 
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Thank you , after all one should be respected when deciding to put things like that out there so early. My emotions are still checked at the door at this point. I have learned that this is the best way for me.

 
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Laughingdaily wrote :
Thank you , after all one should be respected when deciding to put things like that out there so early. My emotions are still checked at the door at this point. I have learned that this is the best way for me.

Just take one of those beautiful muscle cars and she'll fall head over heels for you!
 
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chawks64 wrote :
Just take one of those beautiful muscle cars and she'll fall head over heels for you!

Not much choice on the cars. I can take my Charger or barrow my son' Lincoln. Either way it is just a chance I have to take(lol)!!!!!

Based on our conversations so far the cars do not seem to be an influence one way or the other, so that is good.
 
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Joker1 is offline Joker1 Post #77  January 8,2010, 2:29pm

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She's lonely or has other problems like depression
etc. She could just be friendly or Down to Earth.
But yeah that's strange for her to talk about financial matters the first phonecall.


Laughingdaily wrote :
I called a potential yesterday evening at her request to talk and maybe see about a first meeting. Talked for about 2hours and thats good.

Problem is she spent the last 30 minutes of our call telling me all about her financial situation, all about her travel that she does every year to see family, etc.

Why is she giving me this financial information about her credit, the mortgage , etc..??? She has not even met me yet.

Is there some reason for this??

Anyone out here have this happen??
 
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