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var YAHOO = {'Shortcuts' : {}}; if (typeof YAHOO == "undefined") { var YAHOO = {}; } YAHOO.Shortcuts = YAHOO.Shortcuts || {}; YAHOO.Shortcuts.hasSensitiveText = false; YAHOO.Shortcuts.sensitivityType = []; YAHOO.Shortcuts.doUlt = false; YAHOO.Shortcuts.location = "us"; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_id = 0; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_type = ""; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_title = "Re: Have I found you?"; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_publish_date = ""; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_author = "chrisscaglia@gmail.com"; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_url = ""; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_tags = ""; YAHOO.Shortcuts.document_language = "english"; YAHOO.Shortcuts.annotationSet = { "lw_1252699561_0": { "text": "BlackBerry", "extended": 0, "startchar": 978, "endchar": 987, "start": 984, "end": 993, "extendedFrom": "", "predictedCategory": "", "predictionProbability": "0", "weight": 0.371181, "relScore": 1.11014, "type": ["shortcuts:/us/tag/other/wiki"], "category": ["WIKI"], "wikiId": "BlackBerry", "relatedWikiIds": ["BlackBerry_Curve", "BlackBerry_Pearl", "Blackberry", "IPhone", "IPod", "IPod_touch", "Mac_OS_X", "MySpace", "Palm_Tr%c4%93o", "Research_In_Motion"], "relatedEntities": ["amr corp.\u0027s american airlines", "blockbuster", "copyright", "facebook", "jetblue airways corp", "korean air", "myspace", "research in motion ltd", "take-two interactive software", "yahoo inc"], "showOnClick": [], "context": "you \u0022poofed\u0022. Sent on the Sprint\u00c2\u00ae Now Network from my BlackBerry\u00c2\u00ae From: Chris Scaglia Date: Thu, 10 Sep 2009 11:48:45 -0500", "metaData": { "visible": "true" } } }; YAHOO.Shortcuts.headerID = "c7556c6d61881aec52719a181ab525b3"; DIV P { MARGIN: 0px } I can't apologize enough for the way I disappeared. Flat out, I had a personal tragedy in my life and I didn't handle it well. I basically shut myself off from just about everyone and it wasn't good. I do understand if you want nothing to do with me, but I'm hoping there's still a chance for amends to be made. If, on the other hand, you've found happiness with somebody else and/or can't forgive me, then I wish you all the best. Life's too short.

It is a little worrisome about the email address thing, but honestly give the guy a break if you think he is telling the truth about a death/personal tragedy. People handle tragedy in different ways, and I think it took some courage for him to admit that he was wrong, and that he handled it badly.

I usually write the guy off if he doesn't respond to my email in three days, but if he tells me a plausible reason for his lack of communication, I will usually forgive him. If there is a pattern of disappearance, however, then I wouldn't. For example, there was this one guy who didn't return my email for a week, and then he tells me that he went on a trip to the river without his laptop, and I forgave him because his reason was plausible to me, and I'm not his girlfriend or anything, and he didn't owe a big duty to report to me about his vacation beforehand.

Compare this guy to another guy that I am corresponding with on eHarmony, who on the Friday before Labor Day weekend sends me a quick email to let me know that he is traveling to Philadelphia from California, and won't be able to write to me until he returns the following week. That small act of consideration to me was very romantic, and such a huge turn-on.