Does She Really Want to Go Out Again?


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beshert1 is offline beshert1 Post #1  September 10,2009, 3:48pm
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I was recently on a date that had great conversation for hours. No physical contact, but given the chance to end it many times, she would not. I texted her a couple of days later (that way, if she wasn't interested, she could get out of it without it being awkward). She said she would like to, very busy (true) lets talk later in the week to find time. OK. Talk later in the week, still have not decided on time. I have been very open about wanting to see her, but, if she isn't that into it she just has to say so and there would be no hard feelings, just be honest with each other. She did'nt take the out and still says she wants to fo out again. She is definately not a game player so...I ask....am I reading too much into this or am I being blown off. Opinions...ladies especially.
 
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When a woman strings you along without agreeing to see you with a specific commitment to a time and place, the odds are she is favoring someone else, but wants the chance to be taken out (again) by you, should “someone else” fall through.
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Honestly, there are good reasons for the timing problem and we both know each other is dating until we see what comes of this. I'm just curious if her unwillingness to take an easy out is a + or -
 
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Whenever you still have a chance, there is always the possibility of things progressing, right?
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Yeah, 95% chance she's not really interested for who knows why, but is too "nice" (rude) to tell you straight up.

The only strategy is that if you get a decline or otherwise the "let's talk later in the week" stuff is to end it right there by saying, "if you want to go out again give me a call with a place and a time." If she gets back to you in a day or two with a date and time, great. If anything else, move on to greener pastures.
 
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Honestly, there are good reasons for the timing problem and we both know each other is dating until we see what comes of this. I'm just curious if her unwillingness to take an easy out is a + or -
IMO it's a slight plus. D_Lion is probably right that she is keeping her options open. It's up to you to decide if you can live with that. On the + side she is keeping you open as an option. See it for what it is and don't get too emotionally invested in case she goes with her 'preferred' option.
 
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We're both keeping our options open. She was given a reaon early on to be cautious w/me.
 
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Uh, was it something you said?
 
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kinda, sorta, unintentionally stood her up once.
 
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I was recently on a date that had great conversation for hours. No physical contact, but given the chance to end it many times, she would not. I texted her a couple of days later (that way, if she wasn't interested, she could get out of it without it being awkward). She said she would like to, very busy (true) lets talk later in the week to find time. OK. Talk later in the week, still have not decided on time. I have been very open about wanting to see her, but, if she isn't that into it she just has to say so and there would be no hard feelings, just be honest with each other. She did'nt take the out and still says she wants to fo out again. She is definately not a game player so...I ask....am I reading too much into this or am I being blown off. Opinions...ladies especially.
did you actually ask her for a specific date and time or hem and haw all the way. ask
 
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