First Date Blunders

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Klueless is offline Klueless Post #1  September 10,2009, 3:01pm
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"Obvious over-eagerness" ??  In MY world, I LIKE when they show enthusiasm for being there, and interest in who I am and such!  Granted, I definitely fall into "she has to wear a sign saying DUDE I LIKE YOU" to be confident I read the signs correctly...  Anyone else have the problem of assuming that any positive attention is generally just being polite, rather than indicitave of interest?  I do it all the time, just assume they're being polite rather than interested.. 'course, could very well be why I'm still single!  :P
 
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That happens to me, only problem seems to be there not my type. Then it is time to run.
 
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KaylaWest is offline KaylaWest Post #3  September 11,2009, 10:05am
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i have seen one too many of these!!
 
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emdet is offline emdet Post #4  September 12,2009, 5:46pm
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I always just assume guys are just being polite. My friends think I'm crazy. They always say men won't waste their time if they're not interested but my question is...then why don't they ask me out or for my number (ok maybe not my number... hate talking on the phone) or something to let me know they're interested.
 
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Greeting me with a smile and what appeared to be enthusiasm I thought was "interest". Seems that I was wrong.
 
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emdet wrote :
I always just assume guys are just being polite. My friends think I'm crazy. They always say men won't waste their time if they're not interested but my question is...then why don't they ask me out or for my number (ok maybe not my number... hate talking on the phone) or something to let me know they're interested.
Based on your post in the one about a single rose and here not liking to talk on the phone, I think we must be made for each other
 
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Klueless wrote :
"Obvious over-eagerness" ?? In MY world, I LIKE when they show enthusiasm for being there, and interest in who I am and such! Granted, I definitely fall into "she has to wear a sign saying DUDE I LIKE YOU" to be confident I read the signs correctly... Anyone else have the problem of assuming that any positive attention is generally just being polite, rather than indicitave of interest? I do it all the time, just assume they're being polite rather than interested.. 'course, could very well be why I'm still single! :P
I assume the opposite and it hasn't gotten me anywhere either.
 
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missthang is offline missthang Post #8  September 12,2009, 9:10pm
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guys seem to go on and on about themselves when I (blue moon here) go out on a date. "I know the guys in such and such band" "I sing in choir & play the banjo"...(never caring I play the piano and also sang in choir). Guys who are honestly interested in who I am will floor me.
 
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Klueless wrote :
Anyone else have the problem of assuming that any positive attention is generally just being polite, rather than indicitave of interest? I do it all the time, just assume they're being polite rather than interested.. 'course, could very well be why I'm still single! :P
I always assume disinterest rather than interest until told otherwise, and i'm completely oblivious to the most subtle indicators, so if a woman acts too coy then she's liable to be banging her head against a brick wall waiting for me to make a move.
If i do get noticably positive attention then i'll make a move if i'm interested, my problem is politely brushing off someone i'm not interested in if they're oblivious to my own "Thanks but no thanks" signals, if i have to be blunt about a refusal then it makes me feel lousy, like i just kicked a puppy.
 
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i usually make these mistakes out of nervousness.
 
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