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joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #1  September 10,2009, 11:31am
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A lady I just met today said she would like to keep it casual for now while a group of us were at lunch today. Asked for her number and that was the response I received. Isn't it just a nice way of saying not interested?
 
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Yeah joey, I wouldn't be too hopeful on this one. She just isn't that into you.
 
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Thats what I thought.
 
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Maybe what she really meant to say was that the waiting list and all her back up dates were full at this time.
 
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She went on rambling like she just met some guy over the weekend and wanted to see how things go. I said OK. All I asked was for a number to talk sometime. Whatever your reasons for not giving it to me is your business. She then said, OK. Then asked me if I came to this place often for lunch. Said, sometimes. Then she said, OK. Maybe I'll see you again soon. Said OK and chow. Leaving dazed and confused.
 
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See, that is what it sounded like, she is over-booked at the moment. However, she did confirm you will be around when she runs off all the others!

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Overbooked as she's test driving other models?

I put the offer out once. If I get turned down, which seems to be happening a lot recently, then I just move on. Not going to wait around for something that I was turned down for. Afterall, it was for a phone call.
 
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Joeyjoe,
You're making progress. That's great. Really.
What just happened to you is the same thing that happens to every guy who has enough guts to walk up to a stranger as ask for her number.
It's polite rejection.
Don't be discouraged by it. Accept it. Live it. Learn from it. The most important thing is not the outcome but that you have the huevos enough to actually do it.
As you learn from this you'll gain practice into how to turn those polite rejections into a "yes". Then, on occasion, a gal might offer you her number first. It happens. Trust me. But it never does with a pessimistic view.
So don't be so baffled. The more you do this, the more you'll understand what it means.
 
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I've always asked girls their numbers. This would be the first I received a response like casual for now and then the reasoning on how she came to her conclusion. We were all sitting at the table, she was sitting next to me. We were the last to leave the group. Looks at me and said "So are you ready to go?" I took that as she has some interest in me. Just weird. Never go to that place again. Something must be in the water, cause this one really doesn't make any sense.
 
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Even Barney Stinson has only a 1% success rate & he is pretty good at the game. Landed over 200 women. LOL.

When you get to asking out 100 women I hope that at least one will come through for you.
 
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