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timesawastin is offline timesawastin Post #1  September 9,2009, 6:24pm
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My match and I have been regularly communicating via e-mail for the past couple of months. We are both kind of reluctant about giving about personal info. So we shared identifying information e-mail. In between talking about stuff he mentioned he saved enough money to take a trip to a theme park about 600 miles away. Didn't say if he was going with anybody and I didn't ask, only he was driving. His last e-mail, hinting nothing amiss was last Wednesday and my last one was on Saturday wishing him an enjoyable long weekend. Haven't heard anything. He gave me his cell number which I hadn't used which he can communicate with his e-mail so it isn't like he can't send an e-mail if wanted.

Also I updated my profile. I never said we were exclusive, nor did he. Did he see the updated and think I was still looking and so stopped communicating? Is he still on his vacation and just wait it out? Should I call? I really like him but don't know what is going on, don't want to come off as bugging him if he really isn't interested? Should I contact him & what should I say? I'd rather he say he isn't interested anymore rather than just not hearing from him again. Am I overreacting?
 
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Have you met in person or had a first or second date? I may not have read your post correctly,
 
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After 2 months of email communication, it's time to talk in person (phone or date) to see if there is a live connection. Since he gave you his number, I suggest calling him but blocking your number. (Not sure if this costs extra from your phone carrier). This way your personal information is still protected and you move the communication forward.
 
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no, just e -mails. e-mails wold be filled with words of endearment in precious, beautiufll, I was going through a family cris and told him and he was supportive saying he wouldnt take advantage of me and such and that was the content of his last e-mail. then woosh. notihng.
 
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my carrier will allow the block, if i give them the number so he can't call me back will come as disconnected. is it the rite time to call or just wate it out?
 
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Yes, you are overreacting.
 
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I am assuming you have not met. You told him about your crisis and then he sounds supportive and poof! I would think he does not want to be bothered with the crisis you mentioned.

Forget this one, and move on.
 
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timesawastin wrote :
my carrier will allow the block, if i give them the number so he can't call me back will come as disconnected. is it the rite time to call or just wate it out?
Since it's been a week since his last email and you have his number. I suggest calling sooner than later. He gave you his number for a reason. You can start the conversation with how your weekends were, etc... Many people come off one way in their writing versus in person. Rather than wondering anymore or questioning if you're overreacting, you can be proactive and give him a call.
 
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it was the death of my mother. he was there being supportiv & kind ass hs was getting sicker and sicker and then pulled the plug and took her a weak to die and he was ther writing almost daily then i told him i wanted his support druing the funeral but we hadnt met before and it woulod be awkard and that is when he said he wouldnt take advantage, etc he was there everyday and incoraged me taht grieving would take awhile. he stuck with me. i dont wanna do somethin dumb. some said i am overreacting. should I wait tehn? the last email from him was the day of the funeral, last wednesday.
 
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he was their over my mother's final illness and dying. when they dook her off life support and the week it took to finally die, xchanged e-mis almost daily. i told him in last one I wanted him to be their to help with grief that is wehn he told me I was vunerable & he woud not take advantage of me. help me through one of hardest times in my life, his last massage was day of the funeral. I wrote back three days later asking about trip. some old guy writes I am ovvereacting? just wate then??
 
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