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It drives me nuts. An occasional typo is understandable, but misspelled words and no grammar or "text-speak", lead me to believe that person never reads. If you're a reader, you'll generally recognize if something you spell looks funny...and then check. And if they don't read, we wouldn't have much in common anyway.
- September 10th, 2009, 03:38 pm
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So, Dear Frog (flattered that I can use your real name ),

Are you saying that rather than evolving the written word has in fact deteriorated horribly in the last 20 years? This undermines my natural selection theory doesn't it? Even I can see that daytime TV indicates that breeding is not the sole concern of the literate.

However, there is also a positive correlation between butchering the written word and the sheer volume of communication we now indulge in.

I still hold out hope that in all this cross fire of messaging and writing it's the punctuation savvy that are rising above the dross as the most desireable of sexual partners. Survival of the parenthesis if you like.

I mean not all the cavemen would have been proficient woolly mammoth hunters but they would all have been expected to have a little go. Only the skilled would've turned cavewomen's heads, surely?

Let's agree then we can be officially sexy because we can do the clever writing stuff.

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- September 10th, 2009, 03:59 pm
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Your right .....sad as it is, alot of people dont have time to type every word.......text speak is the new thing.
- September 10th, 2009, 04:00 pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
I'm sure this has been mentioned in the Profile Pet Peeves thread but I would like to explore this question more widely and in more detail

When you see a dating profile with typos, what do you attribute it to, and how does it influence your decision to reach out to that person (if it does)?

Do you think they are:
-a bad typist
-a bad speller
-not intelligent
-lazy/inattentive to detail

and to what degree do those conclusions influence whether or not you proceed with your match?


I'll be back in a bit to post my take on this question....
A couple of typos won't get under my skin; however, when multiple typos exist, it really does bother me. Many times spell checkers won't be of any use, because while they will indicate when a word is misspelled, they will not indicate when a word is misused.

Maybe this is a pet peeve of mine, or maybe it's because I'm an English teacher and I spend a good portion of my time correcting these mistakes on my students' papers (and don't even get me started on their use of text speak in their writing...), but a profile is how a person presents him/herself to others: Isn't it worth the time to make the extra effort to get it right?
- September 10th, 2009, 04:08 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Busted! Busted!
GOOD EYE!

See, no one's perfect but I'm interesting enough to get away with that kind of stuff.

- September 10th, 2009, 04:21 pm
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meri75 wrote :
Lori, I don't believe you are being hard on people. It sounds to me like this is a preference for you, nothing more. Is it also possible that you know people IRL who ARE lazy or lack attention to detail etc and who regularly have typos throughout their written communication? That would be a powerful association, I'm thinking.
True but as D_Lion pointed out - I am soooooooooooo not above making mistakes. I'm sure my posts here are rife with typos though I do try. My fingers move WAY faster than my brain some days and I've also got about 20 other tabs open on my browsers with other stuff I have to do before quittin' time, so time is never on my side.

However -- when I am online dating, my profiles are typo-free. I just think that's the kind of thing you spend extra time on to ensure a best foot forward.
- September 10th, 2009, 04:29 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Also I spend my day correcting 10 year olds for like righting not the write words in there books and it's a boore wen its a groan man.
GOOD ONE! Made me LOL.
- September 10th, 2009, 04:31 pm
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Any combination of the above, none of which are acceptable in the age of spell checkers. A few here and there are ok but when the profile is full of typos there is no chance I will initiate contact or respond.
what are you looking for a harvard grad? maybe some one has never been in a proffesion that required spelling. you discard them for that reason and they could be the person of your dreams. maybe if you can't change a tire or fix a leaky faucet they schould not consider you either. maybe your mr. perfect is in gentlemen's quarterlly. sorry for the spelling but's that's the real world not the schallow world
- September 10th, 2009, 05:00 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Also I spend my day correcting 10 year olds for like righting not the write words in there books and it's a boore wen its a groan man.
Doodette! That was like, SO GNARLY!

I'm happy to see that many of us can still have some fun with the creation of entertaining prose. (Or shall we consider such to be a form of poetry?)

Seriously, the checking applications for browsers are quite limited. Syntax and structure also need to be assessed. Is anyone aware of such tools being available as a freeware?
- September 11th, 2009, 02:55 pm
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There are two guys who initiated communication with me that claim to be very successful, but are such bad spellers that it makes me wonder how they can be successful with such bad spelling/grammar. One asked me out for dinner next week, and I'm debating whether I should go because his bad spelling/grammar makes me think that he may be lying about his success in the workplace. It's not whether he is successful in the workplace that worries me, it is whether he is a liar or not that worries me. The other guy is such a hottie that I don't think I can resist meeting him even if he is a terrible speller and a liar. Yikes. Did I just say that?
- September 11th, 2009, 05:25 pm
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