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Waterbaby100 wrote :
I am a legal assistant and being a good speller is a must. If there is a misspelled word in a profile, of course I notice it right off. However, being a bad speller doesn't make a person unintelligent or lazy. I know many professionals that do not spell every word correctly. It's no big deal. Like everything else, it is a skill and many people on E-Harmony do not deal on a daily basis with "words." Lighten up and see it for what it is -- only a misspelled word. Remember that old saying "[d]on't judge a book by its cover."
Waterbaby, you are one hundred percent correct.

It really shouldn't be a big deal.

Only see, there are just a few things that are like someone taking their fingernails to a blackboard, to me.
And an episodic misspell isn't an issue, but malapropisms and chronic misspelling...well, I do understand it's my issue...

But in every house, no matter how neat and clean, there's a junk drawer somewhere that's never gonna be cleaned out. If it were, the resident would be certifiable.

And maybe I'm just a bit too close to that already....
- September 9th, 2009, 10:25 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
Oh, you are just CRUEL!

Sorry. Your gist crewel!

Or... UR cruel 2 me.

(I actually had a guy dump me via text, complete with text-speak. I don't remember the exact words, but something like "UR a gr8t girl, but not 4 me." He was FORTY!)
auggghhhhhh....!

Did you cry, stomp your foot, or laugh 'til you pipped?
- September 9th, 2009, 10:27 pm
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auggghhhhhh....!

Did you cry, stomp your foot, or laugh 'til you pipped?
I laughed. You see, he didn't realize that I had already decided to move on 2 days before!

The funniest part - that was 9 months ago (remember DUI/p0rn convention boy?), and he told a mutual friend last week to say Hi to me. Oh please!
- September 9th, 2009, 10:31 pm
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Hon', you got to know you are one heckuvva memorable woman.

Just 'cause he can't comm, don't mean he ain't got that right.

(and oh, yeah, to "oh, puh-leez"!)
- September 9th, 2009, 10:47 pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
My take on it is this: in a dating profile, you are supposed to be putting your best foot forward.

A couple of typos isn't going to make me not reach out to someone with an interesting, thoughtful profile. But if a dating profile is rife with errors and it's not interesting or unique, I'll probably pass it by.

Maybe I'm being too hard on people and that doesn't account for the edge cases such as OCG's dyslexic friend, or Meri's awesome friend who just can't spell. But if you know you're spelling challenged, get someone to look at your profile. To me, that extra effort is impressive and shows that you care. And the fact that your profile is interesting and insightful shows me that you're smart and intriuging.
Lori, I don't believe you are being hard on people. It sounds to me like this is a preference for you, nothing more. Is it also possible that you know people IRL who ARE lazy or lack attention to detail etc and who regularly have typos throughout their written communication? That would be a powerful association, I'm thinking.
- September 10th, 2009, 04:26 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If you are using MS Word or other full word processor you have the most powerful spelling and grammar checking tools. While editing with this and then cutting and pasting into the About Me is not as easy as just typing in the form it should provide the best results.

However, the Firefox browser does have a spell checker which works in the About Me, the answer boxes and also here on the Advice site.
Internet Explorer also has an add-in spell checker.

I don't use such much, but other publishing tools have additional capabilities. Alt-clicking a word can bring up a definition window, synonyms and antonyms, and pronunciation. One add-on can assess the approximate grade level of reading skill for comprehension of a document. Another add-on even presents the supposed origins of many words. Here's a fun one...

Early politicians required feedback from the public to determine what the people considered important. Since there were no telephones, TV's or radios, the politicians sent their assistants to local taverns, pubs, and bars. They were told to 'go sip some ale' and listen to people's conversations and political concerns. Many assistants were dispatched at different times. 'You go sip here' and 'You go sip there.' The two words 'go sip' were eventually combined when referring to the local opinion and, thus, we have the term 'gossip.'
- September 10th, 2009, 01:23 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
I will tolerate a small amount of typos if the overall presentation is one of someone who writes and spells well enough not to bother using a spell check.

I allow for one or two word choice errors (there, they’re, their), but not many (this I consider ignorance.)

I will tolerate a lot of the grammar errors one sees in writing from non-native English speakers (this is easy to tell apart from uneducated people.)

I have had a few profiles in which “errors” appeared to be an attempt to spoof other users, or affect an “accent” or tone for uniqueness, and some of these I am okay with too.

Not completely on topic of spelling errors, but I am even more skeptical of factual errors containing misstated data, or common data quoted without contextual understanding, as these are always ignorance or apathy, whereas a spelling mistake might be an error.

Yes, I assume the person is lazy or unintelligent. I have some acceptance for her being busy, but intelligence is a key screen for me.

When I used the matching, I set it on the strictest distance, which forced me to be more open to giving people a chance on a lot of other criteria; still, bad writing was something I skipped over a lot of women for.
D_Lion, I think this is the longest post I've ever seen you commit to and it's in response to a question about typos. You are funny.
- September 10th, 2009, 01:48 pm
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This is on my profile in the additional information box

I judge harshly when people write "your" when they are abrieviating "you are" but other than that I'm pretty easy going.

Unless it's obviously caused by fast typing (which I dig) I close people down for bad spelling. I do think that they're (ha!) unintelligent or that they're not using spellcheck or too thick to know how to work spellcheck. Either way, it's not going to work.

It makes sense when you think about it. There is an evolutionary impetus on us to select the best possible partner to mate with. Communication in its (ha again!) written form is a fundamental life skill in today's world and so the ability to spell and punctuate accurately is, in turn, a sexually attractive quality.

Also I spend my day correcting 10 year olds for like righting not the write words in there books and it's a boore wen its a groan man.
- September 10th, 2009, 02:12 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Also I spend my day correcting 10 year olds for like righting not the write words in there books and it's a boore wen its a groan man.
Spellcheck won't help you here.
- September 10th, 2009, 02:41 pm
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trixie1868 wrote :
Communication in its (ha again!) written form is a fundamental life skill in today's world and so the ability to spell and punctuate accurately is, in turn, a sexually attractive quality.

Dear Trixie,

I wonder about this:

In two generations, give or take, business communications went from thoughtfully composed, courteous and considerate letters, written and then handed off to one’s secretary, who would spot and correct the odd error the businessman might make, into a mad race for efficiency.

Whereas once men took pride – of class and office – in their communication, today efficiency drives all; each omitted word, each careless mistake, each unexpunged malapropism (thanks, SimpleMind) seemingly bringing us that much closer to meeting our earnings forecast.

Not to mention dealings with global people, for whom English is usually a second language (or a third, forth …), where all I need is the point, now.

With Best Regards,

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- September 10th, 2009, 03:26 pm
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