Girls: What would you think in this situation?


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stevex is offline stevex Post #1  September 9,2009, 11:15am
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I have mentioned here before the fact that I have a good female friend from High School. We dated briefly over one summer (after being friends for well over a year) and then despite things being rocky after that we have become rather good friends. I have met her boyfriend and hung out with them. My "relationship" with her is strictly platonic.

So fast forward, she just moved into a new apartment and has invited me and the woman who is currently in my life to come to a "house warming" party of sorts.

So is it kosher to go? I mean would you get the wrong idea if I was dating you and took you to a party at a friends house who I happened to briefly date?
 
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it. First and foremost she's your friend. The fact that you guys dated is ancient history, she's clearly moved on and so have you.

It would only be weird if she still had a thing for you and would be putting the moves on you all night.
 
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I also do not see anything wrong with going. If she is a platonic friend now, there is no reason not to go. If there are still feelings on either side and it was known, then I would feel awkward as a girlfriend going to a party at an old friend of my bfs whom he previously dated.
 
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Yes. Friends are friends and you don't know what the future may hold. You and your friend may continue to be friends for your entire lives; and if so, hopefully there are no barriers to your gf/SO becoming friends with her too. Have fun!
 
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I think you are totally okay if you're going together with your current partner, and the ex-girlfriend also has a current partner.
 
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I don't see anything wrong with this either. You're just at the friends level and both of you expect it to stay that way so go to the party and have fun.
 
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Were I your date, I would welcome it.

To me, would mean you trust me to be a grownup. And to meet an old friend who has known you for years, would be like telling me you are taking me in to another level of your life.

If she doesn't handle it well, that may speak to something else.

I hope y'all have a great evening, though, and all goes well.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #8  September 9,2009, 9:06pm
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I was the Best Man at the wedding of my High School girlfriend and my best friend from H.S. I wouldn't have a problem with it.
 
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I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as the woman you're seeing is comfortable with it. I had a situation a few months ago where I was faced with an ex- of a guy I was seeing. I didn't realize she was an ex- until she did the plastic smile thing and rambled on about how nice it was I was serving her dinner because at his house she's always had to get everything for herself, blah, blah, blah. It was pretty uncool.

As long as you talk to the woman you're seeing first, and you're sensitive to her feelings, you're good. Have fun!
 
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is this many years later? or just a year?
 
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