Numbing loneliness and feelings? Is it possible??


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joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #1  September 8,2009, 8:00pm
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Not sure why, but before I started attempting, well failed at attempting, to date back in 2007, from a 9 year absence from not dating or socializing I felt fine and content. Now, just really sick and tired of having to deal with it. Since I am not really a drinker, what else can I do to just numb out the feelings and loneliness? Never really big on drugs either. Hobbies don't work, as my mind wonders a lot off tasks. So, aside from taking sleeping pills to always sleep, what else is there?

And no, I am not in a depression, just tired of it all. Not worth the pain and agita. I have come to learn some people, male and female, are meant to just deal with life in semi-solitude. However, there must be a way to do so without the negative feelings and thoughts associated with it. No? Not sure, but maybe cause I'm a cancer (zodiac sign not medical condition). Guess we may take things more personally than others. You know, take everything to heart and stuff.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  September 8,2009, 8:06pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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If you're lonely....it probably means your nervous system is telling you to be with people more. Doing things like your cooking class are good options. Keep doing things like this....even when they may not be entirely comfortable. It's just like when you first start learning to do anything. When you start playing baseball you make a lot of wild swings at bad pitches and strike out. But....when you keep in the game you Will get better and it will become more and more natural. Best wishes.
 
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keeping busy & productive seems to work for most people...and is very attractive to the opposite sex.
 
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Hitting the gym is the best advice that I can give.

When you feel strong you will have much fewer moments of feeling badly.

That along with Jayjay's advice should go a long way.
 
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Joe, why not rent a G/F for a few hours to remove some of your stress and try some short term therapy for awhile?

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Harvey7 wrote :
Joe, why not rent a G/F for a few hours to remove some of your stress and try some short term therapy for awhile?

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Hmm, not too crazy about renting a GF. As to hitting the gym, do that already four or five times a week.
 
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