nursekim25 is offline nursekim25 Post #1  September 8,2009, 10:28am
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There's this guy that I was matched up with on eh back in June. He was one of my first matches- I joined at the end of May. We went through the first questions and then he sent me a fastrack and I accepted. He sent me a message and we ended up exchanging numbers. We live close so we called and texted each other for a few days and met briefly just to say hi (it was not a date- I was at work so it was kinda awkward). We discovered that we had a lot in common, we both have 4 yr. old daughters, found out that we grew up in the same small town, and both have similar experiences with our ex's (they both have addiction problems). We talked for a few days after that then nothing. He wouldn't return any of my texts- i was really mad so I just closed the match a few days later. He called me about a month later saying that he was near my house and wanted to see if I was home- I was at work- but I was still mad at him and wondered why he would be calling me unexpectedly so I just hung up on him (that was about 2 mos. ago). I just saw him the other day where I work but I didn't realize it was him- he is a police officer and was in a police car- he was honking trying to get my attention but I just kept walking. Later I realized who it was and now I feel so stupid- i still have his number and really want to call or text him but I dont know if I should or what I would even say. I have met other people since then and nothing has worked out. He is the only one that I just simply cannot forget about. Should I just let it go? Any advice?
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #2  September 8,2009, 10:36am
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Usually I am the guy that says "go for it" but in this situation, I personally wouldn't.

He ignores you, than wants to see you but doesn't try to make plans ahead of time and then doesn't attempt to make plans again until he sees you walking on the street and so he honks at you (rather than stopping and actually talking to you).

With that said, do as you please. If you feel something is there than sure call the guy. I am just afriad that you may get hurt, as it doesn't sound like he knows what he wants.
 
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I guess we all want what we can't have.

I have to ask you this question, why would you want to be with a guy that talks with you for a couple of days then disappears for two months and then pops back up and seems to want to get back together?

Hmm, maybe this is what I am doing wrong
 
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Typical cop...only around when you call them!

Stevex might be right that you could end up getting hurt.. but it's better to regret what you did, than what you didn't do. I would either text him or even try to re-open comm on EH.. Just say exactly what you posted.. Hey I just realized that was you honking at me.. maybe that will spark up a converatation. if it doesn't then you now know the next step is edit delete contact from your phone.. If you texted me I would definately respond!
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courtneybell is offline courtneybell Post #5  September 8,2009, 10:58am
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What does your instinct say? In this situation, my instinct would tell me that he's not interested and that he likes to play games. He also seems controlling. If he's not talking to you, then who is he talking to? Who is he texting now that he's not texting you? It's not that you can't forget him for any good reason, but it's the fact that you don't know what happened that makes you unable to forget him. It's the lack of closure, which could have very well been intentional on his part.
 
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It sounds like your bored with your latest finds and that the only reason he's on your radar is because no one else is.
 
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