Should I walk away from the man of my dreams?

I think you anserwed you own question with the last few lines of your post " I can't deal with a pyscho ex wife and a stepchild who hates me because marriage is hard enough. I just don't know what to do"

I have a feeling this is going to be on your mind no matter what, and will cause problems for you mentally. Sounds like a red flag to me!

I've been dating a wonderful man for 3 months and after years of dating losers, I have met the man of my dreams. We have so much in common and there is a strong connection between us that neither of us have felt before. Maybe we are still in the honeymoon period but we both feel that we have found 'the one'.

The only stumbling block for us so far was when he told me he had a son. I knew he was divorced but his being a father threw me a little because I've never dated anyone with a child before. I told him it was a dealbreaker but after a few days of feeling that I had made a huge mistake, we talked openly about it and we moved on.

The child is just a toddler and from what my partner told me his ex wife gave him such hell over access that he can't stand her now. They only communicate to discuss their son and thats it. He says she is no more important to him than a stranger on the street. Recently he has been seeing his son more often but he feels that he is more of a part time father because he has no say in his son's welfare or schooling.

He definitely wants to remarry and have more children but I'm worried about how the ex will take it and how his son will react. He says he is prepared for her to deny him access but he accepted she might do that for some time. My family are concerned because they foresee a lot of problems and they are telling me it will be a disaster.

The problem is that I think I have found my soulmate and the thought of life without him is too horrible. He is a loving, hard working, good and decent man and I would hate to lose him. I am now in my mid thirties and although this is not a situation I would have contemplated when I was younger, I don't want to get back on the dating bandwagon when I have found someone so amazing. At the same time, I can't deal with a pyscho ex wife and a stepchild who hates me because marriage is hard enough. I just don't know what to do.....

There is no specific reason why she is so difficult about access except that the marriage broke down and she took it out on him in the only way she knew would hurt him. Whenever he asked to see his son, she would say they were going on holiday or she had already made plans for their son. Having said that though, she has started being more cooperative recently. He is emotionally drained by it though so if she were to be difficult again, he probably would just throw in the towel rather than go through that hell all over again.

I've been dating a wonderful man for 3 months and after years of dating losers, I have met the man of my dreams. We have so much in common and there is a strong connection between us that neither of us have felt before. Maybe we are still in the honeymoon period but we both feel that we have found 'the one'.

The only stumbling block for us so far was when he told me he had a son. I knew he was divorced but his being a father threw me a little because I've never dated anyone with a child before. I told him it was a dealbreaker but after a few days of feeling that I had made a huge mistake, we talked openly about it and we moved on.

The child is just a toddler and from what my partner told me his ex wife gave him such hell over access that he can't stand her now. They only communicate to discuss their son and thats it. He says she is no more important to him than a stranger on the street. Recently he has been seeing his son more often but he feels that he is more of a part time father because he has no say in his son's welfare or schooling.

He definitely wants to remarry and have more children but I'm worried about how the ex will take it and how his son will react. He says he is prepared for her to deny him access but he accepted she might do that for some time. My family are concerned because they foresee a lot of problems and they are telling me it will be a disaster.

The problem is that I think I have found my soulmate and the thought of life without him is too horrible. He is a loving, hard working, good and decent man and I would hate to lose him. I am now in my mid thirties and although this is not a situation I would have contemplated when I was younger, I don't want to get back on the dating bandwagon when I have found someone so amazing. At the same time, I can't deal with a pyscho ex wife and a stepchild who hates me because marriage is hard enough. I just don't know what to do.....

I've been dating a wonderful man for 3 months and after years of dating losers, I have met the man of my dreams. We have so much in common and there is a strong connection between us that neither of us have felt before. Maybe we are still in the honeymoon period but we both feel that we have found 'the one'.

The only stumbling block for us so far was when he told me he had a son. I knew he was divorced but his being a father threw me a little because I've never dated anyone with a child before. I told him it was a dealbreaker but after a few days of feeling that I had made a huge mistake, we talked openly about it and we moved on.

The child is just a toddler and from what my partner told me his ex wife gave him such hell over access that he can't stand her now. They only communicate to discuss their son and thats it. He says she is no more important to him than a stranger on the street. Recently he has been seeing his son more often but he feels that he is more of a part time father because he has no say in his son's welfare or schooling.

He definitely wants to remarry and have more children but I'm worried about how the ex will take it and how his son will react. He says he is prepared for her to deny him access but he accepted she might do that for some time. My family are concerned because they foresee a lot of problems and they are telling me it will be a disaster.

The problem is that I think I have found my soulmate and the thought of life without him is too horrible. He is a loving, hard working, good and decent man and I would hate to lose him. I am now in my mid thirties and although this is not a situation I would have contemplated when I was younger, I don't want to get back on the dating bandwagon when I have found someone so amazing. At the same time, I can't deal with a pyscho ex wife and a stepchild who hates me because marriage is hard enough. I just don't know what to do.....