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treeye is offline treeye Post #1  September 7,2009, 4:49pm
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we live 1.5 hr apart, we'd three dates in two weeks.we heated off well. first two dates lasted 2 hrs long each and we spent 9 hrs together on our 3rd date. (going out, having dinner and made out a little bit at my place). we mutually agreed sex early on is out of the question, but he said he'll stay over just to cuddle next week. he usually txts me a couple of times every day.

is sleeping over on 4th date moving too fast? is taking a trip together at one month threashold too fast(he's mentioned it)? I'm starting to miss him every day now, but I don't really know him and I'm not sure whether he's just another "talker", I probably shouldn't allow myself getting attached this early on.
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  September 7,2009, 5:07pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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treeye wrote :
we live 1.5 hr apart, we'd three dates in two weeks.we heated off well. first two dates lasted 2 hrs long each and we spent 9 hrs together on our 3rd date. (going out, having dinner and made out a little bit at my place). we mutually agreed sex early on is out of the question, but he said he'll stay over just to cuddle next week. he usually txts me a couple of times every day.

is sleeping over on 4th date moving too fast? is taking a trip together at one month threashold too fast(he's mentioned it)? I'm starting to miss him every day now, but I don't really know him and I'm not sure whether he's just another "talker", I probably shouldn't allow myself getting attached this early on.
You 'heated it off well'? Was that a Freudian slip? It's up to you what you're comfortable doing before determining if he's a 'talker' (whatever that is). Personally, I wouldn't sleep over at a woman's place to cuddle.
 
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treeye wrote :
we live 1.5 hr apart, we'd three dates in two weeks.we heated off well. first two dates lasted 2 hrs long each and we spent 9 hrs together on our 3rd date. (going out, having dinner and made out a little bit at my place). we mutually agreed sex early on is out of the question, but he said he'll stay over just to cuddle next week. he usually txts me a couple of times every day.

is sleeping over on 4th date moving too fast? is taking a trip together at one month threashold too fast(he's mentioned it)? I'm starting to miss him every day now, but I don't really know him and I'm not sure whether he's just another "talker", I probably shouldn't allow myself getting attached this early on.
imo yes. way too fast. youre right you dont know this guy from joe bl ow down the street and in 30 days you wont know him much better.
 
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treeye is offline treeye Post #6  September 7,2009, 5:13pm
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why is that?


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You 'heated it off well'? Was that a Freudian slip? It's up to you what you're comfortable doing before determining if he's a 'talker' (whatever that is). Personally, I wouldn't sleep over at a woman's place to cuddle.
 
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treeye, is this the same guy that 3-4 days ago you posted about in taking it slow. how to slow down the emotional intimacy?

In that thread you said that you wanted things to slow down and he was getting emotionally attached too early and the texts were too much.

Has something changed or are you still feeling like he is trying to move too fast? If this is your second thread in less than a week about things moving too quickly you may have answered your own question.
 
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yes, its the guy.
nothing changed except now I'm getting attached.

so I'm attached to him based on his words before the relationship progress long enough for me to judge by his action, that's what made me unsettled now.


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treeye, is this the same guy that 3-4 days ago you posted about in taking it slow. how to slow down the emotional intimacy?

In that thread you said that you wanted things to slow down and he was getting emotionally attached too early and the texts were too much.

Has something changed or are you still feeling like he is trying to move too fast? If this is your second thread in less than a week about things moving too quickly you may have answered your own question.
 
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treeye wrote :
we mutually agreed sex early on is out of the question, but he said he'll stay over just to cuddle next week
Um, gullible much? ...he's not sleeping over to 'cuddle', I guarantee it.
 
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treeye wrote :
why is that?
If a woman wants me to sleep over to cuddle...that strikes me as her wanting to pick and choose what she wants to take and when. Physical intimacy....that's going to wait. But her emotional needs she wants met now. I'd prefer to wait for both (or not wait for both). I say this as a man who does like to cuddle....both before and after sex.
 
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