chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #21  September 6,2009, 7:49am
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Seneca wrote :
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NOTE: Answer these questions to yourself only!
Do NOT write out or share your answers here.
Your answers are nobody's business and they are not the point. The point is for you to truly feel what it's like to always be presumed guilty.
Trust me, most women DO know what it's like to be presumed guilty. When we go out on a date, we know a lot of guys are thinking:

She only wants someone to support her financially.

The minute I commit to a relationship, she's going to start bossing me around.

The minute we get married, I'll never get to sleep with her again.

She's going to get really fat.

She's going to use sex to punish me.

She's eventually going to divorce me and take everything I've got.

Why do guys assume these things? Because they had it happen or heard their friends talk about it.

Why do women assume the things they do? Same thing.

It's not an issue of women not trusting men, it's an issue of people not trusting people.

Oh, and my original answers stand as they are. I kind of like them!
 
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tumbleweed is offline tumbleweed Post #22  September 6,2009, 8:07am
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simplemind,,And btw,
.[/quote]who are you refering to? ive been called this,,bearded tumblweed or btw
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CHAWKS....

I'll agree with every word you said, and the online dating community is perhaps THE prime example of it all.

Like Brownies or Cub Scouts sitting around the campfire telling each other ghost stories until they are all too afraid to close their eyes - the people on these sites pass their stories and "advice" around until there isn't a snowball's chance in Miami that any two of them could get together for a happy relationship.

Y0ou are absolutely correct that men trade those concerns too - but it's also true that for every woman who has been scammed there aer 250 men who have been robbed and butchered by our one-way divorce courts. Don't EVER think you know how they feel until the courts steal one of YOUR kids away from you - because you DON'T!

You write..."It's not an issue of women not trusting men, it's an issue of people not trusting people."

Careful Chawks - that's the point I tried to make on the background thread and I had to run for my horse.
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chawks you are right on the money when you said that a big problem is that people just dont trust people!!! And when you are in your 40's and 50's, people are jaded and it makes dating difficult at best
 
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I was going to respond here....but, I'm not that smart.

all I can say is, if you are tired of feeling that you are 'presumed guilty' it is probably time for a break from internet dating.

I just had an interview (8 hours, 11 interviews) that, by the end I just wanted to go home and never see those people again. It felt sneaky....probing, repetitive and definitley like I had to prove myself while I still wondered what was in it for me.

dating can sometimes feel like this, for everyone. And yes, we all need to remember that while we try to figure another person out, at our own safe pace....we have to let them know also, that there is something in it for them, too.
 
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cp30 wrote :
I was going to respond here....but, I'm not that smart.
Maybe you're too smart to respond.
 
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Seneca wrote :
CHAWKS....

I'll agree with every word you said, and the online dating community is perhaps THE prime example of it all.

Like Brownies or Cub Scouts sitting around the campfire telling each other ghost stories until they are all too afraid to close their eyes - the people on these sites pass their stories and "advice" around until there isn't a snowball's chance in Miami that any two of them could get together for a happy relationship.

Y0ou are absolutely correct that men trade those concerns too - but it's also true that for every woman who has been scammed there aer 250 men who have been robbed and butchered by our one-way divorce courts. Don't EVER think you know how they feel until the courts steal one of YOUR kids away from you - because you DON'T!
I had custody of our oldest (who is now grown) and my ex has custody of our youngest.

I've been divorced twice and never gotten a dime of alimony. Or thought it fair to even try.

Are the courts fair? Probably not. But you can see from my posts on other threads that life is not fair. It's not a matter of one person getting picked on, it's a matter of which particular issue are you getting a raw deal on, because almost everyone is, just in a differnt way.
 
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If a positive response to any one question equals a failure and each person has one positive response, why is that a generalization or presumption of males vs females and not a characteristic of human behavior?
 
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cp30 wrote :
I was going to respond here....but, I'm not that smart.
Yeah, I was wondering about the meaning of smart as well. What's the minimum IQ to be considered smart?
 
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I don't think he meant smart, I think he meant Smart - that little tiny car the Danish like to throw into the canals.
 
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