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joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #1  September 5,2009, 4:52pm
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On Tuesday, I went to this social cooking group. There was this lady there, my age, smart, attractive. We spoke a bit and during the course of the cooking presentation, there was some wine tasting. Many people drank a bit more than they should. I noticed that I was getting a bit topsy so I stopped a couple of hours before we all left. She was a bit topsy too, but said she was OK. We walked back to our cars, she was parked next to me. Shook hands, said good bye. It did not come to mind at that time to ask for her number. Possibly why the such neutral goodbye. Did not realize this until I left. Felt pretty stupid in not at least atempting too. Anways, there is another cooking social this week. I was going to message her through the site and see if she was going.

How would this look? Could I be seen in a negative or desprite lite if I just asked if she was going to the cooking social this week?
 
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And... what was your original motivation to attend this cooking social?
 
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Could I be seen in a negative or desprite lite if I just asked if she was going to the cooking social this week?

I think you are fine to ask if she is going, though I think it is better to say or add that you're hoping to see her there again.
 
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You're thinking too much...just ask her.
how could it be seen as negative...if you are showing an interest in her??

Don't think negatively.
 
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No, I don't think it would be desperate, since the class is designed to be social. The site even allows you to message the other people at the classes, so I don't think she would view that as out of the ordinary, like if you had to track down her email or something. I would just make your message out to sound like you're already planning on going to this class (because you had fun the last time; this new one looks interesting; etc) regardless if she would be going or not, and were just wondering if she's going too. Most likely she joined a social cooking class to meet people, so she will probably be flattered

Good luck! It sounds like an interesting way to meet people, this cooking class
 
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To try new foods, wines, deserts, etc. I asked if she was single, she said yes. We spoke for awhile on and off in the night. I guess I would say in the message through the site:

Had a great time at our last class. There is another class this week. Hope to see you there.

How's that sound? I guess, if she doesn't respond and still goes, then I would just avoid her, I guess. My reading on ladies, needs a bit of work, so understanding her body language is, well, poor. Hopefully I am not wrong, just a bit slow in interpreting their signs.
 
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Don't beat yourself up too much!! You sound like me... torturing myself for hours for making just one little teeny tiny comment that *might* have been taken the wrong way.

I think your message sounds great, and if she's not interested (and a grown up) she'll say something. Regardless of a response via email, come up to her and say "hi" next time you see her. Good eye contact is way better than email, I promise!

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The thing is....what do you hope to gain by sending her a message asking if she's going? If she is....you'll see her there. If she isn't....then it doesn't matter. I think if I went the next week and she wasn't there....THEN I'd send her a message asking how she's doing. Otherwise...I'd just talk to her the coming week if she's there and ask for her tel. # or try to set up getting together outside of class.
 
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Show that I would look forward in seeing her there. Show that I have some interest in her.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
You're thinking too much...just ask her.
how could it be seen as negative...if you are showing an interest in her??

Don't think negatively.
Agreed. In fact, if I were you, I would throw in that you are contacting her through the site BECAUSE you forgot to ask for her number.
 
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