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When do you start removing your profile from dating websites?

When do you stop lurking in them?

When do you stop making contact with new matches?

I am just wondering what YOUR opinion is. Meaning you meet people, most of us go on first dates and don't do anything to our profiles, but after 4, 5, 6 dates, even if exclusivity has not been discussed; when would you do the above?

I personally get myself out of the scene in 3 dates, meaning even if nothing has been mentioned I would at minimum hide my profile and stop checking others.

I feel it is wrong if you have a gf/bf to continue on them (that is my land on the sand), but just wondering what is the general consensus among eHA.

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- September 4th, 2009, 12:22 pm
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If we aren't exclusive I'm open to dating other people.
- September 4th, 2009, 12:27 pm
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I guess all the lurkers and readers just agree with JJ? Even the women??
- September 4th, 2009, 01:31 pm
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If you are in a RELATIONSHIP with someone, then you should remove your profile.

What I REALLY love is when I don't remove my profile, and the woman mentions it to me as if I have committed adultery. Excuse me, but what were you doing on a dating site, little lady?

I am convinced that to be a happy, well adjusted male, we have to learn to love corkscrew logic.
- September 4th, 2009, 01:40 pm
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LavenderFields wrote :
I guess all the lurkers and readers just agree with JJ? Even the women??
Yes.
- September 4th, 2009, 01:42 pm
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I don't feel it's necessary to remove yourself from dating sites unless you have had a serious talk with someone about exclusivity and both agreed to it. I think 3 dates is way too premature!!

I also don't assume the guys I am seeing are not seeing anyone else unless we have had the above talk. It's a two-way street, and I believe if you're multi-dating, you have to see it that way.

I just let my eharmony account expire, and I got a few requests for communication but I'm ignoring. Not because I've decided to be exclusive with someone (though there is one I would if he weren't such a flake); but because lately I've got too many irons in the fire. I'll just keep my profile up and tantalize the poor saps with the non-responsive match.
- September 4th, 2009, 01:44 pm
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Oh....and I probably should mention to a new gf that over the past couple years I've created profiles on a number of dating sites....some of them obscure and that I don't even remember. Please understand that I may not remember all of these and hence my profile may still exist somewhere on one or two of these sites unintentionally.
- September 4th, 2009, 02:25 pm
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In the past I've kept my profile up, I don't see the harm when you're not committed and keeping your options open. In my current relationship I actually ended up turning off matching before we started dating, only because I was getting too many matches and communicating with too many people that it was just overwhelming.

When I started dating him I didn't bother turning matching back on, as I didn't see the need to. Now that we're 5 mo. in, I've made sure that I don't auto renew, as I don't see the point in paying for a service I don't need.
- September 4th, 2009, 03:13 pm
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Oh, once you become engaged or have established that you're in a long term relationship. At that level of intimacy who would have time for more than one person anyway?
- September 4th, 2009, 03:18 pm
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jayjay wrote :
Please understand that I may not remember all of these and hence my profile may still exist somewhere on one or two of these sites unintentionally.

Yes, that is exactly how those Ladies' clothes got under my bed!
- September 4th, 2009, 03:19 pm
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