So you have a new guy in your life? What about your friends?


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #1  September 3,2009, 4:41pm
Ladyjuju's Avatar

......Coffee, Chocolate, Men..some things are just better Rich!

Unregistered

Joined: Aug 2009

The Great White North

Posts: 258

See profile

Ok, this is classic, you meet a new guy/gal in your life. And suddenly, you stop seeing your friends, have no time for them etc...as your too busy working on this new relationship! It happens to the best of us! But in reality, why would we jeopordize a great relationships with friends, to spend time with someone you hardly know, but perhaps think, oh.......he/she is the one!.............happens too often to the best of us, and sometimes, we end up losing life long friends over these stupidities of ours. What is wrong with us? I think we are all guilty of this!.....but perhaps, some here will tell me otherwise, truthful or not!..but it is a reality!..not a very pretty one, and one I try to avoid at all costs, as my friends are more important than any "new" relationship out there, yet I have had friends that totally distance themselves from me and our our friends when they start dating a man. This plays out with both men and women. Why?
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  September 3,2009, 4:45pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,659

See profile

Because there is a need to devote effort to a new, potential romantic relationship in order to get it off the ground.

And, we are motivated to due so.
 
  Reply With Quote
Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #3  September 3,2009, 4:50pm
Ladyjuju's Avatar

......Coffee, Chocolate, Men..some things are just better Rich!

Unregistered

Joined: Aug 2009

The Great White North

Posts: 258

See profile

D_Lion wrote :
Because there is a need to devote effort to a new, potential romantic relationship in order to get it off the ground.

And, we are motivated to due so.

But honestly, not when it compromises our existing friendships with people,can't we include our friends in the adventure?
 
  Reply With Quote
tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #4  September 3,2009, 4:52pm
tjlpd's Avatar

loves a flirt

Veteran

Joined: Jun 2009

Posts: 1,151

See profile

I have a friend who has recently "dumped me" for her new boyfriend. She was one of those who said I do not drop my friends for a man but she has totally done that. Last two times I saw her she was with him and all I said to her was hi and bye (HappyHour). I saw her once in August and once in July. I am supposed to see her at a party on Sunday - we will see if I actually talk to her.
 
  Reply With Quote
Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #5  September 3,2009, 4:59pm
Ladyjuju's Avatar

......Coffee, Chocolate, Men..some things are just better Rich!

Unregistered

Joined: Aug 2009

The Great White North

Posts: 258

See profile

tjlpd wrote :
I have a friend who has recently "dumped me" for her new boyfriend. She was one of those who said I do not drop my friends for a man but she has totally done that. Last two times I saw her she was with him and all I said to her was hi and bye (HappyHour). I saw her once in August and once in July. I am supposed to see her at a party on Sunday - we will see if I actually talk to her.
Wow, but I know how you feel, that is why I put this thread together, it is amazing what some of our closest friends do to us, when they meet someone, and somehow forget who were their friends through thick and thin...until their relationship does not last too long, and then their back........... which is Ok, I guess! I , me, Lady Juju actually forgives and forgets rather quickly when it comes to her friends. However, I know others who cannot forgive their friends for ignoring them or abandoning them when they meet a gentleman suitor!
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #6  September 3,2009, 5:02pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,659

See profile

Speaking as a man, men are tolerant of buddies dumping them to go with a girl.

In fact, if a man says “I chose not to go on a date to spend time with my friends,” he would get mercilessly teased for that.

[COLOR=black]
 
  Reply With Quote
Icarus_rw is offline Icarus_rw Post #7  September 3,2009, 5:02pm
Icarus_rw's Avatar

is almost not single.

Quick Study

Joined: Nov 2008

Chicago

Posts: 141

See profile

I had a friend whose older brother did the online dating thing for him to find him a woman. How sad is that! Well apparently this brother of his did a damn good job. The two are inseparable! Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for my once time friend, I just don't like the chick. I mean I know exactly what she is doing. Ex: A couple weeks ago us guys are out talking in front of my once time friends apartment and out she walks and cuddles with him right in front of us. Seriously we all did the Stifler WHAAAAT face right then and there!

They've only been dating for maybe 4 months. I think if I could see my once friend without her being around I could deal. Seeing as that is probably never going to happen again I avoid them both like H1N1.

So sad...

~I
 
  Reply With Quote
Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #8  September 3,2009, 5:11pm
Ladyjuju's Avatar

......Coffee, Chocolate, Men..some things are just better Rich!

Unregistered

Joined: Aug 2009

The Great White North

Posts: 258

See profile

Icarus_rw wrote :
I had a friend whose older brother did the online dating thing for him to find him a woman. How sad is that! Well apparently this brother of his did a damn good job. The two are inseparable! Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for my once time friend, I just don't like the chick. I mean I know exactly what she is doing. Ex: A couple weeks ago us guys are out talking in front of my once time friends apartment and out she walks and cuddles with him right in front of us. Seriously we all did the Stifler WHAAAAT face right then and there!

They've only been dating for maybe 4 months. I think if I could see my once friend without her being around I could deal. Seeing as that is probably never going to happen again I avoid them both like H1N1.

So sad...

~I
Stay close to your friend, he will probably need you more than you know one day, and you need to be there for him!
 
  Reply With Quote
tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #9  September 3,2009, 5:16pm
tjlpd's Avatar

loves a flirt

Veteran

Joined: Jun 2009

Posts: 1,151

See profile

If my friend gets dumped I will be there for her. If things normalize with her and the new guy I would love to see her again. I am worried...they are moving too fast...he is recently divorced and he told her he saw them being married within the year. Yikes,
 
  Reply With Quote
Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #10  September 3,2009, 5:23pm
Ladyjuju's Avatar

......Coffee, Chocolate, Men..some things are just better Rich!

Unregistered

Joined: Aug 2009

The Great White North

Posts: 258

See profile

tjlpd wrote :
If my friend gets dumped I will be there for her. If things normalize with her and the new guy I would love to see her again. I am worried...they are moving too fast...he is recently divorced and he told her he saw them being married within the year. Yikes,
Just be there for her, because, I am sure she will need you before too long! Good friends are for life, no matter what!
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« seeing red flag or being a scaredy cat? | Dating | From friends to more? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Being friends with your ex lilsun Dating 28 October 31,2009 9:34am
Profile Review Please ThatGuyOU Using eHarmony 2 August 9,2009 11:07am
Profile Review Please ThatGuyOU Using eHarmony 3 August 9,2009 7:16am
intimidated by his friends daisyage Relationships 21 July 16,2009 1:47pm
can Friends post in Friends threads? j0hn8andy Using eHarmony 5 July 6,2009 5:13am

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I do still eat and drink the things I shouldn't sometimes. I'd stop if I needed an Epi-Pen but none of my allergies are severe enough for that yet. I feel for you, Legend.” –  harnomygirl

Join the “Living Without....” discussion

“No, this is the ONE, with the Domestic Man among men that I hunger for... New Twist Like the great philosopher Dr. Phil says, "When momma's happy, everyone's happy".” –  tweet37

Join the “What kind of add you see on this board?” discussion

“I think you are projecting that if you are the one paying for the first few dates that the woman is a "pay to play" woman and if you were to marry her she would be so irresponsible that you'd be ... ” –  harnomygirl

Join the “who pays?” discussion

“That's disappointing. You've gotten a lot of tips about changing your settings and I hope it pays off when you do.” –  harnomygirl

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“ Happy Faraday, Birth... um I mean... Happy Birthday, Fara. I blame harnomygirl... typing her name messes with your mind.” –  dmi

Join the “The End Maybe Coming” discussion

“I thought she took the safer route and met him here first. Now that she knows he's fun, they'll throw caution to the wind, but gently.” –  harnomygirl

Join the “a match wants to meet me in a foreign country” discussion

“ I wouldn't be so sure he was ready (the way you mean it) with this new girl. He was calling you testing the waters while seeing her, right? This may just be how he is in relationships- this may ... ” –  FairOne

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 9:32am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0