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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #1  September 2,2009, 6:03pm

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I am having the weirdest day...

I've been thinking about leaving Texas for the last month or so. I had a big interview in St. Louis and...it was...rough. It was 8 hours of what felt like interrogation. Made me reconsider what I have here, which isn't much, but I guess Texas has grown on me, just a little, or maybe I'm just lazy. I don't know.

Anyway, that said. A lady I was working with to buy a condo called me today to see how I was (I decided not to pursue the condo 4 months ago due to some of the above issues). I thought of her today too and thought about calling her. All of a sudden I was thinking about sticking around in Texas and getting back to my favorite hobby, internet dating.

The phone just rang. I thought it was the mortgage guy, and that is the only reason I answered it. The number looked famliar, and I had talked to the mortgage guy before...thought sure it was him!

Well, no, it was a guy I dated from about October of last year to about the end of January. Out-of-the-blue.

I was totally taken off guard! But, because he took me off guard, probably in a better mood/happy to hear from him, no time to think about it and think "I hate you"

I don't hate him actually (which he joked about...) but I do think he was a little bit flakey when things were ending. He never came out and broke things off with me, and I wasn't happy so I ended things with a letter, and told him he could call me someday if/when he wasn't so busy.

well, he did. Just now. He wanted to tell me he bought a house (finally) and just wanted to say hi. Then he in a roundabout way asked if I was seeing anyone and told me I owed him dinner.

I'm flattered he still remembers me, I REALLY liked him back then....I seem to recall some major pining, which was rather nice to put behind me.

So, what do you think? Is this just the standard, guy calls back 10 months later as soon as I am planning to leave the state? Not that he would know that, he just seems to be the type that has that particular kind of radar.
 
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winn is offline winn Post #2  September 2,2009, 6:15pm

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Would you really like to go out with him again? Or are you just flattered that he is still thinking of you and took the time to look you up? I can see where this could be a monkeywrench just at the time when you are thinking of doing something else, but only if he means something to you, otherwise, I'd keep going with your own plans....However, I can see where this makes for the feeling of the weirdest day.
 
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Diann1950 is offline Diann1950 Post #3  September 2,2009, 6:18pm
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Sometimes things just happen, don't base your future plans on him though. Do what is best for you now. Texas or St. Louis if that is a possibility, where do you think your best career and life can be found?
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #4  September 2,2009, 6:27pm

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lol! Is this the guy that got lost and that you helped with his business???

I think you should answer Winn's questions. Maybe he is in a better not so flakey state now??? At least he has enough decision-making in him to purchase a home - that is something.

And wow - 8 hours for the interview??? That seems a bit extreme. I was thinking of you this morning wondering if you had the interview yet or not.
 
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Sounds like the 1st time around did not do anything for you. What would be differnt this time??

Sounds like he may be just looking for one particular thing and not much else at this point. Just my humble opinion.
 
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Eh, go for it. What's the worst that could happen, the dinner will be bad?
 
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CreolePrincess is offline CreolePrincess Post #7  September 2,2009, 6:35pm
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You've now entered the Twilight Zone.

Seriously, it does sound like you've had an unusual day, but be careful about reading anything into it. You should do that corny thing everyone tells you to do when you have a big decision to make and list all the pros on and side and all the cons on the other. Think about it. It took him ten months to call you again. What if it takes him another ten months before he decides to check in with you again?
 
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JerryC is offline JerryC Post #8  September 2,2009, 6:41pm
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Well, you did leave the door open for him to call you. Still 10 months is a long time. If you have put him behind you, leave him there. No sense in waking up the ghosts.
Was that interview with another goverment agency or private sector? I know the interviews for GS-11/GS-12 positions around here run an hour to an hour and a half. I probably would have run screaming from the room after about four hours. Hopefully, it was worth the torture.
 
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lada2 is offline lada2 Post #9  September 2,2009, 6:46pm
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flakey, in an intuitive kind of way.
Obviously, your gut reaction is not nausea.
You owe HIM a dinner? Even if he isn't worth staying in Texas for...sharing a meal can be nice, nonthreatening, no more or less than you care to make of it.
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #10  September 2,2009, 6:47pm

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LizziePooh wrote :
lol! Is this the guy that got lost and that you helped with his business???

I think you should answer Winn's questions. Maybe he is in a better not so flakey state now??? At least he has enough decision-making in him to purchase a home - that is something.

And wow - 8 hours for the interview??? That seems a bit extreme. I was thinking of you this morning wondering if you had the interview yet or not.
yes it is lizzie! I really liked him back then, despite the flakiness (that really was not displayed at first). I got over it fairly quickly after I started dating something else. Oddly, I thought of him today too while I was reading an article in the paper about his industry.

I don't think it would change my future plans any. But I was starting to lean back toward Texas before he called...hence, I answered the phone thinking it was a banker about to help me with a loan to buy a condo here.

I have not been officially offered the job in St. Louis, though I think I have a chance. Regardless, I am really confused because a week ago I couldn't wait to get out of Texas....today with some prespective, after visiting the midwest and having a gut wrenching interview -- literally it made me sick, I am suddenly and suprisingly liking Texas again like I used to. I'm not sure what happened and at what point I decided I had to high tail it out of here.

I guess I can be the flakey one now....hmmm, that is refreshing!
 
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