Why do some women posters give women such a hard time?


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  September 2,2009, 2:51pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I'm slightly saddened by the gender divide on these posts. There's loads of comments that go along the lines of "women do this" and "men do that" and I personally think that we're both as wonderful and appalling as each other.

What I have noticed is that men usually pose a fairly united front when they think that men are being attacked. Good for them.

However, some women go in for a bit of women bashing and criticise their own sex for stereotypical female traits like "nagging" and "being over sensitive" and "over romanticising" and "pressuring men".

Hmmmm. Maybe they think that men will read their misogynistic blah, blah, blah and find them refreshing and attractive?... Who knows.

So I'd like to know:
Women ~ Have you noticed this tendancy too?
Men ~ If a woman is critical of women, does she seem hotter to you?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  September 2,2009, 2:56pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Maybe men more often have a united front because we're generally right. ; )
 
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I am an equal opportunity critic.

I have been criticized by women for not automatically standing up for women just because they are women. I think that whole idea is ridiculous.

I have much more respect for men that will speak the truth about themselves and other men simply because I try to do the same thing with women.
 
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trixie.... I have actually wondered the same things....
 
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jayjay wrote :
Maybe men more often have a united front because we're generally right. ; )

Yah.

Sure.

Anything ya say, jayjay...

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Not sure I've noticed such a trend. But in the little while I've been here, have seen some not very nice situations where men or women generalize to the point that things go south on a thread pretty fast.

IMO, when it comes to emotions or behaviours, there's no such thing as "all women" or "all men". And while I've seen some of the men here take different positions on an issue the way women do; there generally are fewer men that regularly post here, and so you may see a smaller sample of opinion, or they may feel cornered at times. There's been some man-bashing on here, and I could understand coming to the defense of someone being unfairly characterized.

But I do think it's indefensible for a person of either sex to polarize and march in lockstep if they personally don't agree with the position themselves. I think I've only seen this a few times.

Which is why, when someone posts something about females in general, I try to think of what I've actually seen or experienced before I respond--in hopes that at least half the time it keeps me honest.

And that means that sometimes, I see something a woman does that isn't very admirable. And to me, that isn't any different than calling it on a man.
 
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Maybe I am not understanding your questions here, but I will toss out my simlpe thoughts.

Maybe this should be an equal opportunity sport and we can all just take what we need and leave the rest.

Anyone here has an option to express their thoughts and feelings and the option to post those here is also their choice.
 
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Wow, I’ve been observing the opposite: I see a lot of men ridicule each other – particularly when an OP seems pathetic or lazy – while women seem to close ranks and attack the male party of a female OP – particularly when it’s a hot-button female issue.
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simplemind wrote :
Not sure I've noticed such a trend.
I haven't noticed the trend. But then... a lot of things slip by me, unnoticed.

Personally, my comments are based on my sincere opinions/views of the content of the posts... not the gender of the poster. If anyone would like to believe that I do otherwise, be my guest.
 
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I have not really noticed such a trend and I do not respond to the gender of the poster - only to the subject of the post. In other words I will not join ranks and do a pro-female or pro-male post if I do not personally agree with that position.
 
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I respect a woman not afraid to buck the system, but it depends on the tone.

And...did you mean "wonderful and appalling" or "wonderful and appealing" ? Way different meaning.
 
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