Emotions & Expectations Landmines for men?


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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #11  September 2,2009, 3:41pm
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I just wouldn't bother as that kind of behavior would repeat itself.

You have to be willing to walk away. I agree, it is perhaps not the best strategy with one's own children, but with a dating partner it is effective.

That said, it is an anouncement of a deal-breaker; if it continues, you leave.
 
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This issue is definitely not limited to women and happens with men just as well. Like some of the above posters here, I won't ask what's wrong but rather indicate that the behavior is not acceptable and leave it at that.

I do find that someone who is flaky and has communication issues initially will continue to have them, so if it's not something you are willing to deal with, it's wise to just move on and not hold your breath that the person will somehow improve.
 
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I think because there weren't any concrete plans made she has expected you to pick up the ball and run with it, and you didn't. So she "punished" you with a snippy email. It's unreasonable of her, and if you try to smooth things over I suspect you'll always be doing so. Let her get over it. Her problem, don't make it yours
 
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I have to agree with the last two posts. Both men and women can be unreasonably emotional. It is a personality problem which often flows over into communcation problems on a regular basis. If you feel that this is something you aren't comfortable with tackling, then the person is not for you because it will happen more than once.
 
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If this sounded gender specific I do appologize for that. This was a recent event and this woman seemed to be good on several topics that we had talked about prior to this email thing.

I did in fact cease all contact with a follow up email that very day and have never looked back. Doesn't look like I missed anything but a train wreck. And those are good to miss. Fire is always better when viewed at a distance!!
 
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As a woman, the only thing I ever expect from a man is to be treated well. I'm not talking about money or gifts, but someone who isn't going to belittle or try to change who I am. I also expect him to communicate with me. If I ask a question, I want an answer, even if that answer is "It's none of your business." I respect a man's privacy, and would rather he state that than lie to me. I think many women feel this too.

The most frustrating thing is to have a man to avoid the topic, blow it off, or straight up lie about it.
 
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CreolePrincess wrote :
As a woman, the only thing I ever expect from a man is to be treated well. I'm not talking about money or gifts, but someone who isn't going to belittle or try to change who I am. I also expect him to communicate with me. If I ask a question, I want an answer, even if that answer is "It's none of your business." I respect a man's privacy, and would rather he state that than lie to me. I think many women feel this too.

The most frustrating thing is to have a man to avoid the topic, blow it off, or straight up lie about it.


Hello CreolePrincess, You are so right and that is truly what I try to do with any communication. I do not like to leave a conversation or questions left open to some assumption.

Clear communication is very important.
It just seems like some people of either gender do not have the same attitude.
 
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