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Dont go out with someone who just recently broke up,they need time to heal,they will be on a rebound.I dated someone a few months back,he had just broken up.They always did,backandforth stuff.I was friend with this guy,we got together,i thought he was over her,after all he complained about there relationship,was not happy.We got together,me thinking he was over her,or i could help him get over her.Big mistake.We dated two months,got note saying he needed a week to think over our relationship,wqithy no calls,no seeing him.I was in SHOCK,after the week another note,that we were over.I found out two months after we broke up he went back to his ex girlfriend,anther shocker.Rebound big time.Or cheater.Or both.I will NOT do this again.I got on a dating site,hoping to find the right guy,taking it slow.Not rushing into anything.Take my advice on this,its a crusher,to your heart.
- September 2nd, 2009, 01:16 pm
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No offense here, but what were you thinking on this one??

When emotions get improperly mixed with expectations, this mixture can and usually is very flammable !!
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- September 2nd, 2009, 01:21 pm
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I agree with heartnsoul
- September 2nd, 2009, 02:07 pm
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heartnsoul wrote :
Dont go out with someone who just recently broke up,they need time to heal,they will be on a rebound.I dated someone a few months back,he had just broken up.They always did,backandforth stuff.I was friend with this guy,we got together,i thought he was over her,after all he complained about there relationship,was not happy.We got together,me thinking he was over her,or i could help him get over her.Big mistake.We dated two months,got note saying he needed a week to think over our relationship,wqithy no calls,no seeing him.I was in SHOCK,after the week another note,that we were over.I found out two months after we broke up he went back to his ex girlfriend,anther shocker.Rebound big time.Or cheater.Or both.I will NOT do this again.I got on a dating site,hoping to find the right guy,taking it slow.Not rushing into anything.Take my advice on this,its a crusher,to your heart.
taking it slow is always good
- September 2nd, 2009, 02:24 pm
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I suppose it depends how long the guy had been seeing the lady, and how long the relationship had been going downhill. I did the rebound thing once, went out with a lady a week after breaking up with my ex, the date was terrible and my ex and I got back together (but then broke up again for good 9 months later).
- September 2nd, 2009, 03:02 pm
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I guess I was the rebound as well in my last relationship. Not a nice feeling.
- September 2nd, 2009, 03:21 pm
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Laughingdaily wrote :
No offense here, but what were you thinking on this one??

When emotions get improperly mixed with expectations, this mixture can and usually is very flammable !!
86CJ7 wrote :
I agree with heartnsoul
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taking it slow is always good

NO! If we don't mix our expectations with our emotions what's the point of all this dating?! Joyless, setting the bar low so we don't get disappointed and not feeling anything till we're super safe? No thanks.

I feel for the OP, I doubt any of us would've done it differently in reality. You meet someone, you like each other, it starts and then one of you has a change of heart and the other gets hurt. You've still got to give it a go.

HE AND SHE WHO DARES, WIN.
- September 2nd, 2009, 04:06 pm
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Like they say the fastest way to get over a woman is to find another woman...It does work!!
- September 2nd, 2009, 05:12 pm
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hummersandharleys wrote :
Like they say the fastest way to get over a woman is to find another woman...It does work!!
What they say is the fastest way to get over an old boyfriend is get under a new one.
- September 2nd, 2009, 05:22 pm
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Hmm...moderated. Bummer. Maybe it'll show up later.
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