Dating and Dollars during the ression

by ms kitty59 September 2, 2009 2:01 PM EDT I am a 60 yeart old woman who lived through the "sexual revalution". I think it is a mistake to be too idealistic when dating. A woman needs to remember that she is selecting a mate. I was very idealistic. I dated men that I liked and overlooked the little things like income, warning signs, like still living at home. I also wound up raising his two children by myself. I missed the oportunities of higher education or meeting a suitable mate, while young (who wants a ready made family?). AlthoughI love my children dearly, if I had been a little more practical at that age, my life would have been different.
I also agree with the guy, that during the courtship men need to treat women with respect and when things are too casual they don't have the same level of respect for you. AND, contrary to what we thought during the 70's when we were all screaming for equal rights, that is displayed by the little nicities like opening the door, paying for dates, etc. Remember, ladies, he is a guy and he is telling you that this is how guys minds work. It isn't because they plan it that way, it how it is.I have discovered that there were real reasons for these behaviors. I now value these traits in men and I would not consider a second date with anyone who did not show them. Women don't want to be treated like one of your guy friends, we do like to be shown that we are special.
By the way, guys who are temporarily short of cash, there are plenty of inexpensive places to go like a picnic, that can show off your other great qualities, like ingeuity and creativity, especially if you also have a good sense of humor ( which can be a big help later in life!).

Dating & Dollars: Recession Relationships - The Early Show - CBS News


I'm not going to allow Ladyjuju to monopolize the controversial thread-making activities.
Read the above article and let me know what you think.
I personally think Matt Titus is a complete fool and some of his comments in the article prove that to me.

HE SAID: NEVER!!!!!!!!!! What is this world coming to? When a woman allows a man to split the check, she is lowering her position in the relationship by showing him that she is as ordinary as the guys he splits the check with. When a man is not led to believe that he is privileged to be with a woman than he will treat her no better than his male friends.

the truth is that money comes and goes especially if the guy is an entrepreneurial risk taker. you can fall hard. you can make it big. we need guys/people like that out there.

my main concern would not be income or employment, but his intelligence and how responsible a person he is. if i had to live a decade in a tiny apartment with someone that i loved and respected i really couldnt care less.

with regard to dating:




yep.

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HE SAID: NEVER!!!!!!!!!! What is this world coming to? When a woman allows a man to split the check, she is lowering her position in the relationship by showing him that she is as ordinary as the guys he splits the check with. When a man is not led to believe that he is privileged to be with a woman than he will treat her no better than his male friends.

When a woman allows a man to split the check, she is elevating herself to the same emotional, financial, social and sexual level as him. But when a man does nothing but pay his date's social life, he's lowering himself to the position of tool and ATM and is led to believe he should be privileged to be with the women and she is led to believe that HE is also privileged to be with her.