iammclovin is offline iammclovin Post #1  September 1,2009, 5:44pm
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I have been talking to this girl whom I met online approximately 8 months ago. Initially it was just small talk here and there. We did exchange phone numbers early on since the two of us love to text a lot. As I was dating around, we still kept in touch because i thought she was someone I enjoyed talking to. I've learned a lot about her since talking to her, and I liked what i heard. After some major heart brake i went through in July, she was there to talk me through it all. At that point i realized I was staring to like her as more than a friend, and she admitted to liking me too (wooo hoo!). Its been close to nine months, and I feel like it's time to meet her in person. My question is, how do I go about asking her to meet in person?
 
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iammclovin wrote :
I have been talking to this girl whom I met online approximately 8 months ago. Initially it was just small talk here and there. We did exchange phone numbers early on since the two of us love to text a lot. As I was dating around, we still kept in touch because i thought she was someone I enjoyed talking to. I've learned a lot about her since talking to her, and I liked what i heard. After some major heart brake i went through in July, she was there to talk me through it all. At that point i realized I was staring to like her as more than a friend, and she admitted to liking me too (wooo hoo!). Its been close to nine months, and I feel like it's time to meet her in person. My question is, how do I go about asking her to meet in person?
Did she actually say she likes you more than just a friend?
 
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iammclovin wrote :
approximately 8 months ago.

I got a draft notice from 1942, should I do anything about it?

How about, meeting this woman, like, yesterday?!
 
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iammclovin wrote :
I have been talking to this girl whom I met online approximately 8 months ago. Initially it was just small talk here and there. We did exchange phone numbers early on since the two of us love to text a lot. As I was dating around, we still kept in touch because i thought she was someone I enjoyed talking to. I've learned a lot about her since talking to her, and I liked what i heard. After some major heart brake i went through in July, she was there to talk me through it all. At that point i realized I was staring to like her as more than a friend, and she admitted to liking me too (wooo hoo!). Its been close to nine months, and I feel like it's time to meet her in person. My question is, how do I go about asking her to meet in person?
Just come right out and ask her, "How 'bout we meet sometime(tomorrow, Thusday at 5pm, etc.)?"
You've been talking for 9 mos...just be direct!
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Did she actually say she likes you more than just a friend?

yeah she did.
 
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hazmat is offline hazmat Post #6  September 1,2009, 5:59pm
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Don't choke now. Be direct just like Thinker said. Good luck.
 
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How about "Would you like to have dinner on (day)?"
 
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No offense here to anyone of either gender and all that disclaimer stuff !!

Let me pose this question for you to ponder, What do you want to do??

And you said.............????????
 
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Ask her out already! :-)
 
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The fact that you are only just now 'realizing' you are attracted to her after going through a break-up with another woman gives me reason to pause on advising you ask her out. (We all know you are going to do it anyways, there's nothing more powerful than denial in the mind of a person on the rebound.) Still, it would be worth examining that before moving forward with this. You were talking to her for well over 6 months before now - presumably single when you 'met' her online - why weren't you attracted to her then? It's simply not fair to her and nobody wants to be used as the backup/rebound.

Secondly, there's something seriously wrong with a woman (girl?) who is ok with waiting around for you while you have been in and out of a relationship the whole time.
 
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