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landstar59 is offline landstar59 Post #1  September 1,2009, 11:46am
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O.k. this may seem strange but my son and I both agree it appears to be a problem. Whenever we go out to eat we get lots of strange looks from people and we tend to think that they think we are a couple instead of mother and son. I am not sure what would give the outside world that idea except that my 23 yr. old son is very polite and he opens the doors for me, pulls out my chair etc... It has nothing to do with me looking that much younger (I'm 50) nor him looking that much older. We don't really resemble enough to say we are related so aside from us getting t-shirts that say I'm his mother and he's my son, what could we do to stop this impression we seem to be sending out? Any suggestions?
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  September 1,2009, 11:51am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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How do you know that's what they are thinking? Maybe they're staring at your that way because you're so hot. Or drunk. ; )
 
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landstar59 wrote :
We don't really resemble enough to say we are related so aside from us getting t-shirts that say I'm his mother and he's my son, what could we do to stop this impression we seem to be sending out? Any suggestions?
Hmmmm..
well, It may be that there's enough of an age difference, at least a perceived one, that everyone thinks it's a May/December thing going on, especially with the "courtesy things" you describe your son doing for you.

Or...

like jayjay said....you may be one really smokin' hot mama.
 
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I once took a photo with my mother for the newspaper. The writer wanted asked my mother if she was my wife. My mom took it as a compliment.

It was not a compliment to me, as I was already losing my hair and concerned I was looking much older than my real age.

I suggest you just take it as a compliment. It's your son that may feel awkward.
 
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Personally I ignore inane rhetorical comments received in public … not sure what possesses people to think their uncivilized interjection is appropriate.
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D_Lion wrote :
Personally I ignore inane rhetorical comments received in public … not sure what possesses people to think their uncivilized interjection is appropriate.

Ignore them, and if they can’t take the hint and proceed to ask specifically, ask why your status is germane to the business you intend to conduct?
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See I had this same problem only it was with my mother and I am her Daughter for God's sake!
People would stare an even family members commented that we looked like homosexuals because I'd always show her respect an help her when doin somethin.
She's 50 I'm 25. She's not in the best of health, and if I can help my
mother with whatever then I will.

When people judge others, it really ticks me off. Sorry, but I know
how it feels to be judged like that, an ours is not some May/December homosexual relationship.

People these days jus aint used to seeing a respectful child helping
their parent in anyway because they are to self involved to bother with taking notice that there are younger people that do care about other's well being.

There really is nothin you can do. These types of stares dont come oftend these days, but they still do occationally.
Just Ignore it if you can. People will do what they like.
 
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I'm sorry but fwiw it's really none of their dayum business.

Forget the other people and spend time with your son. And if someone dares to comment, politely excuse their ignorance / rudeness and carry on.


 
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I don't mean to laugh, but it's a little flattering, and it reminded me of a story from my teenage years..

My parents' anniversary was coming up and my dad wanted to get my mom a really nice gift. He wanted a female opinion, so he took me along when he went shopping. He finally decide to get her a heart-shaped diamond ring. As we stood there looking at the solitaires, I noticed that the salesman was barely able to control himself. I finally realized, he thought my 48-year-old dad was buying 16-year-old me an engagement ring!

I have an 18-year-old son who acts and looks older, and I look younger than I am, so the assumption I always get is that I had him in high school.
 
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