a_nice_girl is offline a_nice_girl Post #1  August 31,2009, 7:31pm
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Trying not to let this get me down but it is so hard. Here's the situation...
I have been talking to this guy online for 2 months. I made the initiative and suggested we go beyond emailing. I gave him my number and left it up to him. He called and we planned a date for this past Friday night. The night of the date he calls about an hour before hand and says he was stuck at work and wanted to reschedule the date for the following night or the next night. I was bummed but understand that happens. However, when I called him back he didn't answer so I left a message. It's now three days later I have not heard from him. Obviously, he is not interested but why the talking to me for two months and planning the date and saying he wanted to reschedule, what was all that? Geez, he could have at least met me before he blew me off, he never even gave me a chance.
 
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Nanette is offline Nanette Post #2  August 31,2009, 7:35pm
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wow two months talking online? that seems like an awful long time for someone that was local. I suspect when people cancel and dont return calls for that long it is because they are otherwise attached.
 
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a_nice_girl wrote :
Trying not to let this get me down but it is so hard. Here's the situation...
I have been talking to this guy online for 2 months. I made the initiative and suggested we go beyond emailing. I gave him my number and left it up to him. He called and we planned a date for this past Friday night. The night of the date he calls about an hour before hand and says he was stuck at work and wanted to reschedule the date for the following night or the next night. I was bummed but understand that happens. However, when I called him back he didn't answer so I left a message. It's now three days later I have not heard from him. Obviously, he is not interested but why the talking to me for two months and planning the date and saying he wanted to reschedule, what was all that? Geez, he could have at least met me before he blew me off, he never even gave me a chance.

From a male perspective looking at your post here it appears to me that this guy is a self-centerd person. He only wants what he wants and likely has several women he is "playing along". He can not keep juggling and now he is with another one, so how can he call you?? RED FLAGS!! Just my honest opinion.
 
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a_nice_girl wrote :
I have been talking to this guy online for 2 months.
There's your problem.
 
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CreolePrincess is offline CreolePrincess Post #5  August 31,2009, 7:57pm
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Or here's a creepy scenerio, maybe he's not who he said he is, like he's only two feet tall, green, and covered in warts. Seriously, he may have misrepresented himself completely, and he's backed out of meeting, because he doesn't want to reveal his true self. It's very easy to hide behind a computer screen.

Or it could just be that he's married or has a girlfriend.
 
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CreolePrincess wrote :
Or here's a creepy scenerio, maybe he's not who he said he is, like he's only two feet tall, green, and covered in warts. Seriously, he may have misrepresented himself completely, and he's backed out of meeting, because he doesn't want to reveal his true self. It's very easy to hide behind a computer screen.

Or it could just be that he's married or has a girlfriend.

Could be all of the above, but he needs to be history !!!!!!
 
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kevin76 is offline kevin76 Post #7  August 31,2009, 8:13pm
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CreolePrincess wrote :
Or here's a creepy scenerio, maybe he's not who he said he is, like he's only two feet tall, green, and covered in warts. Seriously, he may have misrepresented himself completely, and he's backed out of meeting, because he doesn't want to reveal his true self. It's very easy to hide behind a computer screen.

Or it could just be that he's married or has a girlfriend.
You say that like you think there's something wrong with being two feet tall, green, and covered in warts...

...okay, seriously...

Obviously the guy has serious issues. And just as obvious (from a third party objective observer who only knows this little piece of the story) it has nothing to do with you. Maybe you know that, but I wanted to confirm it for you in case you weren't sure. If he was interested before, then suddenly poofed without talking to you any more, then it can't possibly have anything to do with you.

It could be any number of things that stopped him, most of them a reflection of bad character on his part, but there is a very small chance something actually happened like a sudden illness that was serious enough to make him forget everything else for a while.

The point is, you don't know what's going on with him, but no matter what it is, it has nothing to do with you and the only thing you can do is put it behind you and go on with your life.

Very frustrating when that stuff happens, but no matter what you shouldn't let it get you down.
 
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If I was you, I would not worry about the guy. He is either not telling you something, or just really not interested. If a guy is seriously interested in you, he would make sure you two could meet somehow. Problems do arise, but he should explain his actions and not ignore. My guess is he is in a relationship, and he knows he will get caught. If he just talked to you online and over the phone, it makes it easier to hide things like having a girlfriend or being married. Just remember not all guys are like this, but sad part is a majority of them are.
 
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OK, everybody wants to bash the guy here. (Including some guys. As if none of you ever had a woman go poof on you? Come on - you all know it works both ways.) I'd like to hear his side of the story... but that's not the point I want to make,

The plain truth is that a prolonged email "relationship" is just not normal. (Unless distance is an issue, and that doesn't appear to be the case here.)

So contrary to what kevin76 said... yes, it does have something to do with you. Letting things drag on for so long in email is a sure sign that both of you were more interested in fantasizing about meeting each other, than in really doing so. And/or that one or both of you was not being honest. Live and learn.
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When I was 19, I, well I'll skip the sorted details. Thought we had something going. Called on her on eveing, only for her dad to tell me she'd just got engaged. I quickly gathered that family had known about, well, at least 2 of us. To say my gob dropped. First real romance an all. I suppose it was a lesson. I do recall the cute way she applied Vaseline prior to kissing. Neat tick.
 
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