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Doodler is offline Doodler Post #21  August 31,2009, 4:38pm
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I prefer not to play "hard to get" or any other games.

The last time I ignored a man I was interested in, he stopped calling. In my defense, I was only 20 years old and believed a lot of foolish things...
 
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Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #22  August 31,2009, 4:39pm
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Although again I can't relate to the appeal of hard-to-get, I'd have to think that's a huge concern. I mean, if you go this route you're issuing a challenge to the man, and I'd think that many of those who pursue would be doing it just to prove to themselves that "I can get any girl I want", rather than because they're interested in her in particular.

There are some men out there, who think they are stud-muffins! and can and have any woman they want! When someone tells them otherwise, they get mad, they get evil sometime, ( giving me one star! haha)...but again "GENERALIZING FOR THE MASSES HERE!", they have a hard time taking rejection and act out like little children! in many cases!! Just MY OPINION!
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Maybe your post is playing hard to get?
Hah, yea.

Well, that is a method that some guys use to get really hot girls too. I find it completely stupid that the "10's" fall for it.

I mean, the hottest girls usually get waited on hand and foot, and all the guys treat her so nicely. So when they meet some guy that treats them like total $**t, they'll just go crazy and do anything for them.

I can't believe it actually works sometimes though, especially when I see some guys treating them so poorly, but they are still around.
 
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cardguy wrote :
Although again I can't relate to the appeal of hard-to-get, I'd have to think that's a huge concern. I mean, if you go this route you're issuing a challenge to the man, and I'd think that many of those who pursue would be doing it just to prove to themselves that "I can get any girl I want", rather than because they're interested in her in particular.
Well, there is at least one guy I know who is tall, handsome, well-built, and very successful. Because of that, he's so used to have any girl he asks out say yes. Well, somehow I just was not physically attracted to him, at least initially, so apparently I was the first one who said no to him. I really was not playing hard to get. So unintentionally I became a real challenge to him and he kept pursuing. I told him I'd hang out with him as friends only and he agreed. So we did. Then after spending a lot of time with him as friends I learned that he really was a wonderful guy so I actually fell in love with him because of his character. So we dated. I remember being worried that after he had me that he would leave me. But he didn't, and after about a year after when I lost interest in him and ended the relationship, he was really crushed and even told me that he had never thought that he would meet someone that he thought would be a perfect wife for him until we had been together. So, in his case at least, it was not because he was trying to prove that he could get any girl. I wonder also if the fact that he had to work for my affection somehow made him think of me being more valuable in his eyes.
 
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Much as I would love to play hard to get I just cannot seem to do it... so I smother them instead! This has not worked too well so far. I think the secret is something in between and I am working on that.
 
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Ladyjuju wrote :
There are some men out there, who think they are stud-muffins! and can and have any woman they want!

Thanks!

(Someone please quote, in case I am still in the ignore list.)
 
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whether they want to admit it or not, women that are "easy to get" are perceived as being of less value to men that get them. this is why men will eventually start treating these women badly unless they are a more passive laid back kind of guy. there are different types of guys and ones that are more capable of emotional intimacy that would be turned off by a woman that is hard to get. its all a matter of what you want.
 
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Just for the record: even if I wanted to, I can't play hard to get. As soon as a guy I am really attracted to touches me, I can't say no. I'm pretty pathetic in that respect
 
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Rainfallgirl wrote :
Much as I would love to play hard to get I just cannot seem to do it... so I smother them instead! This has not worked too well so far. I think the secret is something in between and I am working on that.
What a "cute and smart " response! Also very real response! I think the secret is just being "you" and if that is not good enough for them, then they are not good enough for you!
 
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EMTZ wrote :
Just for the record: even if I wanted to, I can't play hard to get. As soon as a guy I am really attracted to touches me, I can't say no. I'm pretty pathetic in that respect
That's probably the reality for most women. Playing hard to get with a man you are really, really interested in means going against everything you feel. Maybe it's similar to men approaching women they don't know....it takes going against all those feelings of anxiousness.
 
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