when it's safe to get in a car with your date?


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treeye is offline treeye Post #1  August 31,2009, 5:55am
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I'm sure there's already been discussion in terms of online dating safety on this forum, but the search function on this forum is not that great.

anyway, I met a guy face to face first time Sunday, I like him and he doesn't seem strange except the fact that he seems falling too fast. we spent 2.5 hr together in a public place but I made a mistake letting him walk me home.

i googled him before i meet him from the home phone he gave me, and he didn't lie about age, work, school,photos, places to live, etc. my question is when and how i know it's safe to be in the same car with him or invite him to my place?
 
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Why is it a mistake to let him walk you home? Because he knows where you live?
People should be innocent until proven guilty. That also means that men shouldn't be assumed to be rapists or abusers. Not saying that you're doing this. Just saying.
Of course, common sense, reasonable safety precautions, paying attention to red flags and TAKING THINGS SLOW to really get to know the person are always required.
There is no specific timetable when you should get into his car. Just when you feel comfortable with it-if at all.
 
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Depends on what kind of car. If it looks expensive, jump on in. lol
 
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treeye wrote :
I'm sure there's already been discussion in terms of online dating safety on this forum, but the search function on this forum is not that great.

anyway, I met a guy face to face first time Sunday, I like him and he doesn't seem strange except the fact that he seems falling too fast. we spent 2.5 hr together in a public place but I made a mistake letting him walk me home.

i googled him before i meet him from the home phone he gave me, and he didn't lie about age, work, school,photos, places to live, etc. my question is when and how i know it's safe to be in the same car with him or invite him to my place?
Clearly you're not comfortable...so don't do it yet.
Take it easy...get to know him better. Tell him how you feel and if he cares about you, he'll understand.
Do you have a car?
Meet at a place where you both drive home...in your own cars.
 
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I dont even want a guy walking me to my car, let alone walking me home until i know him pretty well.

I think it would be awhile before i actually got in a guys car. people usually have their best foot forward initially. i might wait until i felt that he was dropping his guard a bit. id also listen pretty carefully to what he says. a guys that says "trust me" in any form i would approach with great caution.
 
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Get one of those home security alarms... according to their tv commercials, once someone kicks your door in, they NEVER rape, assault, kill or rob the homeowner..
 
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