Dateless?? Women can handle this much better than men!


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Ladyjuju is offline Ladyjuju Post #1  August 30,2009, 2:51pm
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The one thing I have realized through my years being single, is that women are really "ok" in their own skin, meaning they don't necessarily have to have a date every weekend to make them feel worthy of themselves, or self confident. Yet many men, tend to rate their manhood and self confidence on how many dates they have, or how many women they have...well you know!!....Many become consumed with this, yet they say they want to meet that "Mrs. Right". Just how many wrongs do you have to go through?
And this becomes even more evident as men and women age.
I think it's time men out there take note that women will survive just fine without them, yet........they may not do so well themselves!
 
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Are you speaking for all women, are just yourself? In my observations, women jump into relationships out of loneliness than men do, generally.
 
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I think speaking in generalizations can be asking for trouble.
Not all women are fine without a man and not all men need a woman. If only we could learn to just get along.
 
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grneydldy wrote :
I think speaking in generalizations can be asking for trouble.
Not all women are fine without a man and not all men need a woman. If only we could learn to just get along.

Yes, you do have a point, however if you look at the statistics, there are a lot more women living alone than men. And as the age of the women and men increase, you see a lot more women living on their own than men. It's also interesting to note that men who are living with someone or dating someone, tend to live longer, yet there is no evidence to prove this in women. Interesting? Wonder why?
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #5  August 30,2009, 3:14pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I don't know if that's true.

I think.....WARNING....... huge generalisation ahead .............

women are better at being on their own at the end of a relationship than men are. Men often leave one relationship and launch straight into another. Women often take time to grieve and try to get their act together and not many men seem to do this.

Also, if you look at how many men and women there are on these boards I think it's fair to say none of us are very brilliant at being dateless or we wouldn't be here in the first place!
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
I don't know if that's true.

I think.....WARNING....... huge generalisation ahead .............

women are better at being on their own at the end of a relationship than men are. Men often leave one relationship and launch straight into another. Women often take time to grieve and try to get their act together and not many men seem to do this.

Also, if you look at how many men and women there are on these boards I think it's fair to say none of us are very brilliant at being dateless or we wouldn't be here in the first place!
 
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Funny how you and I see the same things but come out with the exact opposite conclusions.
I have scores of single male friends. None of them (with the exception of one) pine for a relationship or even date. They're all confirmed and dedicated bachelors.
Yet every single woman I know (without exception) has one goal: to get married. This goal boarders on an obsession. It drives everything they do: career choice, clothes, activity level, hair style...practically everything.

(generalizations are great, aren't they?)

So...my conclusion is that your post is a great way to manufacture controversy but has little truth.
 
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boccabum wrote :
Funny how you and I see the same things but come out with the exact opposite conclusions.
I have scores of single male friends. None of them (with the exception of one) pine for a relationship or even date. They're all confirmed and dedicated bachelors.
Yet every single woman I know (without exception) has one goal: to get married. This goal boarders on an obsession. It drives everything they do: career choice, clothes, activity level, hair style...practically everything.

(generalizations are great, aren't they?)

So...my conclusion is that your post is a great way to manufacture controversy but has little truth.
Do I say "thank you?".........but then again, I do love controversy!
 
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i think the fact that men dont live as long without a wife and women dont live as long with a husband is a pretty strong testament to the fact that women are better off without men if we want to generalize. but men make great playthings lol.

*helps stir the pot*
 
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bocca I suspect you are fairly young. my mom in her sixties and also has a boyfriend . Of her single friends a few have boyfriends and none want to marry. My uncles also single and sixty ish would both love to remarry but say most the women their age are not interested in that.

In my age group mid fourties i find most of us that already have kids are open to marriage but don't have any desperate need for it although most of us would like to find someone that fits with our life and we fit with theirs. The younger women with no children may be the ones really molding their life to find someone and the ones that can't support themselves financially. In fact, as far as that goes, from what I see it is mainly women that can't support themselves financially, in all age groups, that are the ones in hot pursuit willing to comform the most but I suppose that is to be expected.

In my case I took a break from dating for a while as I found the men I encountered in a hurry to get serious and I was just at the point I could not deal with it anymore. I am just getting back into the dating scene again now, slowly. My male friend, who was a dog in his younger years and never married, told me he feels like men and women switch places as they get older with men being more ready to settle and women wanting more independence. He thinks it is becausae many women get treated poorly by young men running around and get fed up around the time men are ready to settle. Don't know if his theory is correct but I guess its possible. Perhaps this is some of the reason it is easier for a man to have a relationship with someone a little younger that has not had the bad experiences. I have heard this said before.

That said I feel like this is not an easy time to date. So many middle aged people, especially it seems men, are questioning so much in life and trying to come to terms with their own mortality. I suspect it makes them a little screwy and tryng to capture their misspent youth!
 
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