joeyjoe is offline joeyjoe Post #41  August 30,2009, 6:29pm
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MCMLXXII wrote :
^^ Precisely.

JoeyJ: I'm a little annoyed. What are you waiting for? This is where guys mess up. Call her tonight...or definitely tomorrow.

Ugh.

Oh, no doubt in that. Her response, should be interesting to say the least.
 
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This thread is unbelieveable......like watching a slow motion train wreck.

OP, if you don't call her today you are quite simply a complete fool and don't deserve to date her.

Here is a female perspective for you spelled out:

1) Women do not EVER give their number to a guy they don't like

2) Women do not go out of their way to give a number to a guy to just be friends - we have friends

3) If she gave you her number Friday night and you have not called by Monday night - you are finished (the absolute most you can wait is three days which is today, after that you are coming across as a jerk). Your "playin' it cool" just told her that you are not that interested and that at best she is on the backburner for you. If you wait until Wednesday or Thursday she won't remember who you are and most certainly will have plans for the weekend already with someone else who was not being a fool and "playin' it cool".

4) Women absolutely hate, in fact despise, weak, wishy washy men. If you don't call her, take charge, ask her out on a clear date and not some group bs, you will lose her to another guy who actually has the guts to do what needs to be done.
 
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So I am thinking about first date ideas. Now, this is not a first meet, its a first date. She was by my side Friday nearly the whole night and early morning. We also talked a good deal too. Nothing personal, as there were other people in the group, but talked nontheless.

Dinner is definately one thing. Possibly a scary movie? If there was a fair around, I'd do that, but I think most are closed by now. Drive down to NYC and central park? She likes to dance, I am a horrible dancer, so not sure a night club is a good fit. I read many of the topics in the first date threads, but a lot had to do with first meet dates, which does not really apply here.
 
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Dinner is what I do. Do you prefer to have a conversation, or be “doing” something? (I go for the former.)
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joeyjoe wrote :
So I am thinking about first date ideas. Now, this is not a first meet, its a first date. She was by my side Friday nearly the whole night and early morning. We also talked a good deal too. Nothing personal, as there were other people in the group, but talked nontheless.

Dinner is definately one thing. Possibly a scary movie? If there was a fair around, I'd do that, but I think most are closed by now. Drive down to NYC and central park? She likes to dance, I am a horrible dancer, so not sure a night club is a good fit. I read many of the topics in the first date threads, but a lot had to do with first meet dates, which does not really apply here.
Since it sounds as if all of your other encounters have been in a group, activity-based environment. I would recommend that you choose a venue that is more intimate. By that I simply mean one-on-one in a setting that is free from a lot of noise and distractions. One that will allow you to focus solely on one another and talk without interruptions. A dinner in a quiet restaurant followed by a nice walk would be nice - without a movie to interrupt the rapport and distract you from one another. I would save the fairs and the movies and the dancing for another time after you get the chance to get to know each other at some level.
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Yea, I was thinking maybe dinner and then dancing or something. Doesn't seem it will happen though. Called her Sunday night, left a message and never heard back. And it was her number, as it was her voice and her name on the greeting.

Guess she came to her senses. Story of my life in the dating world.
 
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It's only Monday ...

Whatever you do, do not make any more messages.

Give her a chance to call back, do not chase.
 
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I don't chase. One call that is it. No texts or other voicemails. If she calls like Wednesday, then I wonder.
 
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I didn't read through all the posts. I usually don't. I'm lazy.

Anyway, you and I have the same superpower. We both should wear a red cape, blue tights, with a big effin 'O' stapled onto our chest.

Yes, stapled.

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saulgoode wrote :
I didn't read through all the posts. I usually don't. I'm lazy.

Anyway, you and I have the same superpower. We both should wear a red cape, blue tights, with a big effin 'O' stapled onto our chest.

Yes, stapled.

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