Women and Makeup - Do we deceive men?


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lxp is offline lxp Post #1  August 29,2009, 5:28pm
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What is your opinion: Should women wear makeup when they first date a man? Do men see it as deceptive?

I have often wondered for those of us who don't look like models (with or without makeup), is it deceitful of us to try to improve our looks. When you wake up to someone (after you are married - yes a whole different thread) and they don't look like the person who you thought swept you off your feet, do men feel ripped off?
 
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so you don't wear make up every day? just a light foundation and eye shadow do wonders. If a woman's light make up is deception, then a slightest heel on men's shoes are deception too.


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What is your opinion: Should women wear makeup when they first date a man? Do men see it as deceptive?

I have often wondered for those of us who don't look like models (with or without makeup), is it deceitful of us to try to improve our looks. When you wake up to someone (after you are married - yes a whole different thread) and they don't look like the person who you thought swept you off your feet, do men feel ripped off?
 
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Lots of makeup is definitely a turn-off. We're going to see you without it eventually, so less is better. If we're not attracted to you, more makeup isn't going to help. And we really hate having a face print on our shirts after a hug...or waiting 2 hours for you to put on the mask.
 
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I'm in trouble if the guy likes a lot of makeup. On a daily basis I wear none. When I go out I can be showered, dressed, hair dried and makeup on in 25 min. I'm a wash and go kinda girl. Must come from being a tomboy. A little powder, some mascara and I'm good to go.
 
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I am finding that the older I get the less makeup I want to bother with. Plus you're right - if things go to the level of a real relationship the man is going to have to see you without it eventually anyway. So I think less is more.
 
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It's not like they don't know we're wearing it, so how deceptive can we actually be by wearing it if we wear it within reason?

If you're putting it on with a spackling knife and taking it off with a chisel, then yeah, you're being deceptive. But let me ask you...have you ever actually seen a model without her make up? It's not always a sight to behold.

Most of the men I've dated don't like it when a woman wears so much make up that she looks like a different woman with it on. But there's a difference between painting your face and enhancing natural qualities. They tend to appreciate the second one, and no, that isn't deceptive at all.

Truth be told, I don't always wear make-up, and when I do, I don't wear much--if it takes me longer than 15 minutes to wash my face and put my make up on, then I'm wearing too much.
 
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Is wearing a dress that's flattering to your figure deceptive? Should I toss out the support garment and let the girls wander where they may? LOL. Don't answer that.

I've been known to go without makeup, but I feel better with a bit of powder, some eyeliner, mascara, and lipstick (which you can probably tell from my current avatar). Is it deceptive? Probably in a minor sense. I wouldn't put it up there with infidelity or embezzlement, though. I prefer to think of it as costuming : )
 
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I never considered it deceptive. But if you have changed who you are through makeup then that would be just a bit freaky
 
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hazmat wrote :
Lots of makeup is definitely a turn-off. We're going to see you without it eventually, so less is better. If we're not attracted to you, more makeup isn't going to help. And we really hate having a face print on our shirts after a hug...or waiting 2 hours for you to put on the mask.



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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Is wearing a dress that's flattering to your figure deceptive? Should I toss out the support garment and let the girls wander where they may? LOL. Don't answer that.

I've been known to go without makeup, but I feel better with a bit of powder, some eyeliner, mascara, and lipstick (which you can probably tell from my current avatar). Is it deceptive? Probably in a minor sense. I wouldn't put it up there with infidelity or embezzlement, though. I prefer to think of it as costuming : )
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